Self improvement, Psychology
How do adequate people behave?
Do we love eccentrics, those who constantly attract attention by strange and incomprehensible actions? Hardly, rather, they are amused, they are considered funny and even afraid. Adequate people, unlike those who constantly drop out of the norms and standards of communication, are much more pleasant and reliable.
The word itself is of Latin origin. Adaequare - "equate, identify." Consequently, adequate people are those whose
Of course, history knows many examples of vivid, extraordinary actions. Let us recall Khrushchev's famous shoe. And it is not always necessary to say only what is expected of us. It's not about the essence, but about the form.
Often, what is obvious for us and does not require additional comments for our foreign guests or interlocutors may seem strange or even offensive. For example, it is natural for Russians to visit each other without warning, just "drop by a glass of tea." But the German in this situation will not understand you and will even be indignant at your impudence. There it is customary to warn and agree in advance about the visit.
Although the mentality has a very significant effect on all spheres of human life. Take, for example, such a concept as adequate self-esteem, that is, not overestimated and not understated, corresponding to reality. But even here the very differences creep in. If modesty is considered a virtue for a Russian or an Asian, then, say, an American or a Spaniard does not hesitate in the most favorable light to present all his achievements, embellishing them and once again stressing. Much depends on education, on the model of behavior adopted in the family. But all this is influenced also by the established system of values.
And it is they who determine whether adequate relations will develop in two people. Will participants in the group meet their roles, mutual expectations, norms, also depends on many factors. One thing remains certain: that the standards are respected, they must be clear and obvious.
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