The main styles of communication in society, as well as the role of courtesy in society

Every day we face the need for constant communication in a social environment. Someone likes it and uses every opportunity to communicate with people. Others, on the contrary, try to protect themselves as much as possible from society and concentrate on themselves. In any case, communication styles should be known to every person, since this will prevent various conflict situations that are quite often encountered in modern society.

A careful analysis of any conflict clearly shows that it is based, as a rule, on people's misunderstanding of each other due to the unequal treatment of various phenomena, as well as different approaches to the definition of ordinary things. At the same time, each person tries to prove his case by giving his own evidence. The paradox lies in the fact that in such a dispute people cease to hear and understand each other, and negative emotions only worsen the sober perception of information. To avoid this, humanity in the process of its development has developed a number of certain laws and rules of conduct, through which people can culturally communicate with each other, without touching personal feelings.

Different styles of communication are conditioned by different approaches to conversation and the expectation of results from it. It will be useful for each person to learn about styles, as this will not only broaden his horizons, but will also help to find out the true intentions of the person who conducts the conversation under a certain mood.

So, here are the basic styles of communication in psychology, which are now widely used in the society between people:

1. Ritual style of communication. It is a polite attitude of people to each other, as well as a set of standard phrases and expressions that people use when meeting with each other. This includes phrases like "How are you?", "What's new?" And so on. It is also accepted politely to respond in the same way, regardless of how things really are in man. Here, however, the controversy between psychologists and culturologists does not subside, which can not come to an unambiguous conclusion about whether to always answer standard template phrases or not.
2. Manipulative communication style. A rather specific kind of behavior is enough, while the goal is to influence another person through a series of any beliefs and evidence that can be carried out in disguise. This style of communication is quite common among advertising agents and sales consultants who, during a normal conversation with the client at the subconscious level, try to convince him of buying any product.
3. Imperative style of communication. It is, in fact, an authoritarian style, which is based on the desire of one person to subordinate himself to another by means of instructions of an orderly nature. The classic scheme of such communication is the "boss-subordinate" model, where one person is endowed with certain powers that give him the right to control the behavior of another person. Here, too, you should be careful not to abuse it, because such styles of communication as imperative, when abused, can lead to a conflict situation.
4. Humanistic. This dialogue is based on a form of dialogue and friendly conversation, during which people learn about the preferences, views and interests of each other. This style is the most acceptable for achieving full mutual understanding.

It should be noted that not all people consciously choose this or that style of communication. The majority automatically takes for themselves a certain manner of behavior and communication and conducts a conversation, largely ignoring some of the nuances that only the psychologist can discern. This is the reason for the conflict situations and the impolite attitude of people to each other. In any case, you should always keep yourself in hand, and even if a person is overwhelmed by negative emotions, in no case spill them on other people. Choose styles of communication that will promote mutual understanding, and try not to affect the person. Be always sober and calm, which will give you more respect from others.