The formation of character - it's interesting!

Among the youth, for some reason, it is considered that the character of a person is some kind of frozen substance, formed in early childhood.

"Such is my character!" Many say sadly, writing off their shortcomings for supposedly improper upbringing in childhood. They forget that the formation of the character of a person occurs throughout life, and the nature itself does not depend on either nationality, or on anatomical or physiological characteristics.

Many people are dissatisfied with their personal warehouse, which influences behavior, behavior, and world view. But very few people try to change these features, to make character formation the main goal of life. But can a man be happy and harmonious if he is constantly unhappy with himself? Is anyone able to achieve success, build a career or create a happy family, if he lays his "laziness", his passivity, or, conversely, rudeness and intolerance?

It is possible and necessary to work on yourself, and character formation is not only difficult, but also very interesting.

Suppose a person does not like the indecisiveness or greed inherent in his nature. To safely get rid of these (or any other) traits, to make character formation successful, you first need to analyze what exactly this quality gives. Are you indecisive because you are afraid to become the center of attention? Are you afraid of being a leader? But this is very often hinders the achievement of the goal. Being in a comfortable shell, not daring to express your own opinion or make an independent decision, you are able to remain in the backyard of fate all your life. Try once to overcome the indecision, and you immediately notice how much the quality of life will improve. In this way, you can not only get rid of every unwanted feature, but also make character formation an exciting process.

However, there is little analytical and practical work on the shortcomings.

The second stage is to make sure whether the qualities that you are attributed to are actually inherent in you. Maybe it's just a reflection of an outsider. It often happens that even a girlfriend, wanting to look more successful, often try to understate someone else's self-esteem, negate the other's dignity. Have you verified? Formation of character can be continued.

To do this, you need to take a sheet of paper and in a short categorical form write down on it those features that you want to buy. It's simple. "I want to become single-minded. I have already become (a) single-minded (oh). It is the prescribing in two forms that greatly increases the effectiveness of working on oneself.

Generally, the formation of the nature of psychology, or rather the representatives of this science consider it an indispensable condition for the life of every adult person. After all, from the age of 12 teenagers are able to analyze their behavior, draw conclusions about the reasons for their success or not success. Therefore, people who do not want to change themselves for the better, always get stuck in adolescence, become outsiders.

After the desired changes in the character are thought out and recorded, the next stage of work on oneself begins.

Imagine a hero, who would like to become like. Conduct a mental interview with him, ask him to share his experience, his character traits. For example, Forest Gump is very impressive. Not knowing (by virtue of his mental faculties) that success was very difficult to achieve, he simply did what he considered necessary. Without hesitation and doubt. And he achieved much more than his mentally developed compatriots.

The last stage of work on yourself will be difficult, it will last a lifetime. After all, character is the same habits. And to get rid of bad habits, they need to be fought. Are you used to picking up the most delicious piece? Give it to a friend. Do you like to position yourself as the smartest in the office? Praise publicly for the resourcefulness of your colleague. Are you afraid to voice your opinion? Invent and sound a constructive solution to the problem. Let it be not quite right. But you will cease to be in the position of a cowardly mouse, you will be reckoned with. Afraid to get acquainted? Smile to a stranger, try to talk to him.

Act, and in a few weeks your life will become brighter and more full.