Modesty as a quality of personality

Modesty is the lack of desire for honors . A person sometimes can not evade honors, but this in no way speaks of his immodesty. Maria Sklodowska-Curie was the first in history to double the Nobel Prize winner. In 1910, she managed to separate out pure metallic radium. Thus, the 12-year cycle of hard labor dangerous for life was completed. Out of modesty she did not even patented the results of her research. Maria claimed: "Radium should not enrich anyone. This element belongs to the whole world. " During the First World War, Mary headed the Radiological Service of the Red Cross Society and herself traveled to the front-line hospitals. She learned to drive a car, and if necessary became an auto mechanic. In her youth, she endured the coldness of the attic with courage, then in an unsuitable laboratory for the shed she conducted laborious experiments, and during the first world, with her usual calm and modesty, turned into a soldier. The world revered her, but she never had a desire for honor and glory.

What does immodesty look like, that is, a person striving for honors? He accentuates himself, behaves himself in a manner, talks loudly, with pathos and commanding notes in his voice, flamboyantly dresses, shows envy, etc. Immodesty as a manifestation of pride constantly enters into antagonism with others, and this leads to suffering and pain. When a person does not speak sincerely, with pathos, people knowingly or unconsciously resist his immodesty. There is a growing risk of conflict, and this is pain and suffering. The ego of immodesty encounters the mass ego of those around.

Unlike indiscretion, modesty is always in a state of appeasement, that is, her mind is calm. Pacification is the peace of mind, that is, the mind of a pacified person is not excited by his Ego, he is constantly at rest. A humble person is, first of all, a pacified person . Not quiet, but peaceful. A quiet person can be far from modest: in a quiet pool the devils are found.

An indiscreet person, deprived of the "sweet" of honors, is envious. Immodesty without honors grimaces and comes from envy. Modesty behaves calmly, unassumingly, always performs its duty well and with honors and without them. Indiscretion, if she is enticed by honors, will perform her duties, she will never come to perform her duty disinterestedly. The lack of modesty is a burning desire for honors. Immodesty is not stable, without remuneration, privileges and honors, it is ineffective. In other words, with an indiscreet person, a lot of problems arise: he works not stable, conflicts with people, he is not respected. If the collective was healthy, then with the appearance of immodesty, it will eat away envy.

Modesty is the quality of a person that manifests itself, not relative to other people . It is different from humility. Humility means victory over anger, a person perceives all incoming information humbly, scolds or praises him - he will equally humbly react. Humility is the highest quality of a holy person, it automatically assumes the presence of modesty. Modesty does not have to be humble. If modesty to scold, insult, bring to the "white heat", it can not stand and burst out into anger. She is indifferent to glorification, honors, gifts, but when her human dignity is offended, she too can "stand on its hind legs". In other words, humility is the absence of anger, and modesty is the lack of desire for honor. Modesty is an obligatory step towards humility.

Modesty, unlike indiscretion, knows how to listen, to perceive the new . Immodesty is not capable of listening. Active listening presupposes humility. This quality of personality is the opposite of pride, so indiscretion can not claim it. For example, a young provincial came to Moscow to conquer the scientific world. His main motivation is, for example, obtaining scientific titles and degrees, achieving material prosperity, honor and fame. Science is not its goal, but a means of enrichment. Angry and hungry, he frantically gnaws the granite of science. Gradually, having accumulated knowledge, he "settles down" - becomes a candidate, then a doctor of sciences. With the tail of the years pride, that he knows more than others, grows, his egoism becomes more active. Gradually, the human ego is matched to the mind, and it begins to feel omniscient, the most intelligent and indispensable. This means that modesty is lost, the ability to further develop, improve, progress - is lost. When he was modest, he could listen to other people, learn from them. It was then that he was happy. But since the motives for his knowledge were exceptionally self-interested and had the most distant relation to the knowledge of the truth, he himself "blocked his own oxygen." Leaving on the baggage of past merits, he puffs up in front of everyone, trying to confirm his importance. Even his "home" he gets his selfishness. An irritated wife says to him: "You can make a genius out of yourself in front of students, and in the family act naturally. March to take out the garbage, until I got a stupid bald head. " In other words, a person who has lost modesty suffers a fiasco.

An example of modesty and at the same time a true scholar was Michael Faraday. He never aspired either to wealth or to honors, but for his services he was elected honorary member of more than seventy scientific societies and academies. His works marked the beginning of a new era in physics, and he did not take a patent for his inventions, repeatedly giving up profitable posts that promised him fabulous incomes. He also refused from the nobility, saying at the same time: "Thank you, but I want to be called simply - Michael Faraday."

When a person's mind is desecrated by selfishness, he can not convey his thoughts and knowledge to other people. As the great director KS Stanislavsky said: "I do not believe it!" When a person is in pride, he can not explain anything to people. They do not understand him. Paradox, there is a lot of knowledge, but there's no use. Humility is humble, it adds nothing from itself to the learned truth. If she made a scientific discovery - this will be "added value" to previous knowledge. Knowledge of modesty will be assimilated by people, for it comes from pure unselfish reason. Modesty can explain, because she is not nervous when a person does not understand, but continues patiently in a friendly manner to state his point of view.

A true scientist is modest and devoid of pride, he does not need honor and glory. For example, Pierre Curie and Marie Curie, when they received world recognition, and did not think to enjoy fame, they were more worried that the state's provision of the laboratory was delayed from year to year due to lack of money and bureaucratic delays. When the dean of the faculty of natural sciences informed Pierre that he wanted to present him to the order, the scientist replied: "I beg you, be kind enough to tell the minister that I do not need any order, but I really need a laboratory." And when, in 1903, the Curie received a gold medal from the Royal Society, they gave it to her little daughter as a toy. Scientists have not even patented their method of obtaining radium, believing that such a commercial approach to discovery is contrary to the spirit of science.

The ability of modesty to listen and hear another person is extremely important for the relationship. If the spouses listen to each other's opinion, then the family is a single whole, which means that it is based on mutual respect. The egoist does not listen to anyone, and no one wants to listen to him. And how important it is for a politician to listen to other people's opinions, to understand and accept the point of view of his advisers.

The test for modesty is praise. Indiscretion, waiting for honors, spreads from praise, becomes on the pedestal, bronze in front of the eyes. She can not hide her reaction to praise, because she wanted to amuse her pride. The flattery will always find a corner in the soul of indiscretion. Modesty, on the contrary, is indifferent to praise.

If the overwhelming majority of composers in their lives passionately sought glory, then Debussy - on the contrary. He has never in his life visited the productions of his own operas and rejected the glory that came to him at the end of his life. Well, about his music, he always modestly said: "If God did not like my music, I would not write it ..."

Modesty is the opposite of arrogance. Have you ever heard of a humble fool or of insolent modesty? Of course, no, because they are two different poles. These two qualities form the "Modesty - Impudence" scale on which the person is at a particular point. When the manifested side of the person becomes modest, we consider such a person modest. Modesty, of course, is the quality of a holy person. An ordinary person is a fraction, in the numerators of which is modesty, and in the denominator - insolence. Anatole France said: "In all things it is necessary to observe the measure, even in modesty." People listened to his advice, minimizing the numerator of the fraction. To modesty, a person goes consistently: "I am an indiscreet person. I, probably, the modest person. I'm a very humble person. I am undoubtedly the most humble person. I'm an ordinary person. " Giuseppe Verdi once said: "When I was eighteen years old, I considered myself great and said:" I am. " When I was twenty-five years old, I began to say: "Me and Mozart."
When I was forty, I said: "Mozart and I." Now I say: "Mozart." That's the way we go to modesty.

Real, not ostentatious modesty attracts intelligence . For example, a modest girl wants to get married. She will not throw up clothes and behave impudently. She needs a responsible, intelligent guy who does not need an impudent painted doll, but a modest wife. Like attracts like. The impudent girl will attract the attention of men who are interested in her body, not in the inner world. Anyone who is interested in her mind is an intelligent person, and the one who was attracted only by her body - we will not give him an exact definition, and so it is understandable. The price of such a marriage is a ruble per bunch on a market day. If a girl demonstratively refuses attention (honors) to herself from the other side, is it modesty or not? No. If she is happy to take notice, is it modesty or not? Also no. If she does not pay attention to men's views, is this modesty or not? Yes, it's modesty, it manifests inside a person, not from outside. Modesty inside itself is an inner purity and the ability to store and protect this purity. Modesty is the most powerful weapon of a woman.

Between reason and modesty there is a directly proportional dependence . The mind of a humble person is not burdened with pride, therefore he sees objects of the external world without bias and selfishness. Immodesty has a "dirty" mind. Her ambitious Ego turns true knowledge into false knowledge , fitting it with a fair amount of selfishness. The intellect of immodesty is in ignorance, it is wholly subordinated to the whims of the bloated Ego.

Modesty is not inclined to find faults in other people . This is a fundamental property of this quality. Modesty justifies a person, thinking: "This is a good person." If there is a shortage on the surface, modesty says: "It's okay. Little nothings of life. Anyway, I will not leave you, because you are good. " Why is this happening? From the fact that modesty has no envy for this person. You can envy the position of another person, the fact that he does not honor me. Envy causes irritation and anger towards another person, forcing him to talk about him in black tones. If another person does not honor me, indiscretion begins to condemn him, to gossip. She wants reverence, and she is not respected. Then she begins to look for other flaws in the other person. In a word, envy is a sign of a lack of modesty.

Modesty lives in harmony with its desires and possibilities, it is not pretentious and restrained . She is oppressed by excesses, luxury and fatal lust. Modesty, going to the store, will buy only what it planned. It will not be distracted by any bait. Immodesty, full of lust, will buy and what is needed and what is not needed. Therefore, modesty sooner immodesty will reach a material goal.

The external goal is achieved through the realization of the internal goal. What does it mean? The internal goal means to cultivate in oneself good qualities of the person and then external goals are realized automatically. For example, a husband wants a wife and children to respect him. This is an external goal. Forcing oneself to respect, give gifts, reproach - all these are hopeless ways. In "Eugene Onegin" uncle "to respect himself forced and could not invent better." In our time they would say "gave an oak", "played in a box", "glued flippers" or "skated back". It is clear that this option does not suit him. If he sets an internal goal - to become a responsible person and will strive for this goal, the result will not be long in coming. Women respect in a man the responsibility. Feeling a change in the behavior of the father and husband, his loved ones will change their attitude for the better.

Modesty does not cultivate the desire to master something as soon as possible in the material world. Its principle - everything has its time. The unpretentiousness of modesty means respecting the course of time. She knows that everything will be with her in time. "Do not jump out of your pants, so you will not reach the goal, I will get everything I deserve," modesty is sure. Do good deed your business out of a sense of duty, and the result will come. Therefore, modesty is pacified. She realizes that she needs external purchases as a means to an end. If they can not afford it at the moment, then the goal is different. Calmly accepting this reality, modesty, at the same time, realizes that she has another purpose, God has other plans for it. She understands that she has another happiness, it does not need to be anticipated, it comes from within, not from the outside. It does not attach too much importance to the objects of the external world, so its goals are achieved easily and simply. Indiscretion, striving to fulfill their desires, will spend all their nervous resources, get a tenfold infarction, spoil relations with close people, but the goal will never reach. Greed rushes indiscretion: "What all of your time? Grab it faster. "

Modesty is sincerely interested in others, respects the norms of morality and morality adopted in society. It gives freedom from vanity, provides an opportunity to learn from others, taking advantage of their dignity.

A humble person is characterized by another positive quality - he is not intrusive in communication . If he sees that someone, communicating with him, is not happy, he will try to avoid contact. Modesty does not cause anxiety to other people by their behavior. Modesty should not be confused with crookedness and softness. On modesty "you will not train", "you will not sit on her head". Modesty is, above all, a developed sense of self-worth. Clogged up arises from the fear of losing a husband, a job that others will not be good for her. Modesty can not be picked up for anything, she does not sit on her neck, she has her own goal and therefore she can always politely refuse. She will not do what violates her movement towards the goal. In achieving the goal, modesty manifests a sense of dignity.