How Easy And Easy To Recognize Manipulation. 7 Symptoms That Make You Think

Immediately disappointed, not for everyone it will be easy and simple. The most important thing in communication is to keep track of your feelings and thoughts , and this requires a certain training. Identifying oneself with your inner voice is a very serious obstacle in communication, because thoughts can be instilled - putting an equal sign between the self and your thoughts, we allow the interlocutor manipulator to easily direct the conversation in the right direction. To prevent this from happening, you just need to monitor yourself. Constantly, continuously. At first it will be difficult, you will fall into thought, but with practice, awareness will come.

But this is the topic of a separate article, today I want to talk about specific feelings, signs that indicate manipulation.

All comes with experience. And the best lesson will be your own mistake . If you feel that someone has used you or made you take a "disadvantageous" decision for you, just stop and analyze how the interviewee behaved, what feelings you had, what was special about that conversation. Make a conclusion and do not step on the rake next time.

I will list some signs of manipulation (not all) that will force you to reflect in a controversial situation.

1. Inconvenience

A clear sign that indicates manipulation. If you feel uncomfortable in the process of communication, it is possible that you are pressured, forced to feel uncomfortable, criticized or constantly elude response.

2. Fear not to live up to expectations

In this case, the manipulator refers to your dependence on the opinions of others. Who will like to hear that he is selfish, boorish, acted ugly, did not live up to trust, etc.? No one.

3. Feelings of guilt

Ooooh, this is a favorite piece of manipulators, appealing to feelings of guilt. The victim begins to justify himself and smooth his "mistake" in all rational and not very ways. The algorithm is simple:

• Accurately accuse a person
• (You can throw a tantrum)
• ?????
• PROFIT !!

4. "Injustice" of the conditions

Almost any communication, any communication can be considered as business negotiations. Each party has its own principles and conditions, on which they agree to conclude a contract. So, the "payout-fee" ratio should not tip to the side of the board. If you feel that you lose more than you get - CAUTION!

5. Shifting responsibility

If you are sure that the responsibility for making a decision, for any actions, lies with you ... think carefully! Usually we do not owe anything to anyone, but decisions are made in a coordinated manner. So why should you make a decision this time? Especially scary is this combined with the illusion of lack of time.

6. The interlocutor creates the appearance of lack of time

Caution! Often the lack of time is just an illusion. Take a pause. One or two minutes will not play a special role. Think, calm down. Often, you can delay the decision-making and do for a couple of days.

7. Infantile Reactions

A clear sign. Crying, aggression, fury ... Do not be scared, maybe this is also manipulation. Hold a pause and stay calm.

One day during the conversation you will notice one of the feelings that I told you about, the trigger will work and you'll think: And do not you manipulate me?

Good luck, and do not lose your vigilance!