How to become a good wife? Five postulates of the ideal wife

Some ask this question long before the marriage, and some - even when the family literally bursts at the seams and before the collapse, it seems, is only a step. How to become a good wife? We have lost our mind, unfortunately, and listen and hear. And they forgot how to talk. Therefore, and understand, too, paradoxically, forgot how.

1. Question: how to become a good wife? Answer: Learn to express your needs, your thoughts, keeping a deep respect for the person of your loved one. We forgot about the most frequent wish for the newlyweds: "Love and advice to you!". And all after all with advice begins. Even love is not always the main feeling for an ideal couple. The main thing is readiness for compromises and the ability to talk. It is to talk. Listen, penetrate, participate, understand, sympathize. A wise woman will never start with scandals, if something does not develop in the family. Mildness was valued so in the olden days. "Meek, aki the angel of God ..." And they wanted to marry just such a - meek, understanding, kind, affectionate. After all, the word kind is nice to the beast. But we are with you - go, not animals, but reasonable people. Therefore, to be a good wife, learn to understand. Everything can be discussed. Any problem is solved. Any. Without exaggeration and exaggeration.

2. Question: how to become a good wife? The answer is: do not criticize! Now about the criticism. Tell me honestly - do you like the criticism yourself? But in society, and with witnesses? No man will approve criticism in his direction. Even fair. Especially - with strangers. Especially - female. Perhaps he will remain silent. But the precipitate will certainly remain. Do not criticize, dear ladies. In extreme cases - whisper in your ear. So, at least, you retain some kind of intimacy, and criticism will be more easily perceived. But this is in extreme cases. Learn, again, to communicate your thoughts. Calmly and correctly. Want an ideal husband? Take it like that. Let it be in advance. Believe in it. Faith spreads its wings.

3. Question: How to become a good wife? Answer: be a faithful helper. A wise woman will always support a loved one. He really needs both understanding and support. Especially in difficult times. Everyone should have a single, secret, cozy place where one wants to return where the soul drags, where they will always understand and regret where they will receive and not condemn. And this place should become your home. Be proud of your husband. Praise it. Admire them. Sincerely. For real. And do not hide it. Not from him, nor from others. You are the best for each other.

4. Question: how to become a good wife? Answer: support the sexual interest of a loved one. Physical proximity can not be ideal without emotional affinity. It is she who attracts and beautifies sexual activity. Flirt with your husband. Flirt with him. Do not wait for manifestations of romance from him, show an example. Do not forget: the appearance of impeccable must always be (even after many years after the wedding). Forget about the "kitchen" gowns and slippers. Your clothes - beautiful underwear, elegant stockings, heels (let small, but still). Even pajamas (or nightclubs) should warm up interest. And do not be afraid to discuss your desires. With whom to do this, if not with him, my beloved?

5. Question: how to become a good wife? Answer: Give your husband a personal space. Allow him this luxury. Even if you want to be around every minute. Understand: a man has his, men's needs. And this, of course, is not limited to communicating with parents. Before your wedding, he had other interests: colleagues, friends, hobbies (fishing, hunting, bowling - anything). Do not try to reshape what has developed over the years. Do not limit your husband. Your whims and demands will pour into his irritation. Best case scenario. To start. And then, inevitably, the scandal with the transition to the opposition and the mental slogan: "I'll do it out of spite!" Iridescent perspective? No. Therefore, give all the same personal space to her husband. By the way, you will get your own personal space in return. Difficult to understand? Then just accept.

Love and advice to you!