Interethnic marriages: is it real to be happy?

"Marry a foreigner" - announce us. Almost every woman at least once went to a link and flipped through the catalog of overseas suitors. There are plenty of options, and everyone seems to want to create a good family. Friends talk about positive examples, newspapers scare the negative. Is it possible to assert that interethnic marriages are a recipe for personal happiness?

Many have married citizens of other states and are quite happy. However, interethnic marriages in Russia are often condemned. Especially men. Their position is understandable - after all, women leave, who could be included in their unofficial harem. Notorious demographic indicators allow very many men to have a parallel relationship with more than one woman. Moreover, it's no secret that young and beautiful women are especially popular, who can be candidates even for wives, not just mistresses.

In fact, it's not necessary to be a beauty. Foreigners often the brightest girls do not at all the offers that the effective ladies would like to hear. And to whom do foreigners offer their hand and heart more often? Ladies, who are characterized by stressed femininity and care. And it's not true that only servants are looking for - everyday life in developed countries is eased as much as possible, so it is not at the heart of it. Worthy men need a friend and companion who will always listen and support. Many of them are simply tired of the selfish behavior of compatriots, who are ready to break off relations at the slightest inconvenience.

Are there unequivocal "contra-indications" for joining interethnic marriages? Only one thing is conservatism and unwillingness to change habitual behavior. Moreover, this is not always associated with age, there are examples when women after 60 married to peers and were clearly happy.

Are children hindered? For many men - yes, but there are still a lot of good candidates that your children from the previous marriage will not be a hindrance. Usually they are middle-class men who do not have their own kids or have adult offspring. Even women with two children come with letters. But it is clear that the requirements for men will have to be reduced. Perhaps you need to reconcile with the greater age difference.

More often interethnic marriages are concluded between people with a difference in the age of 12-15 years, 10 years or less - a great rarity. So, if you find a young man, consider that you are very lucky. Although all the same overseas suitors younger than 30 years are very unreliable. Also, do not give hope to men older than you for more than 15-17 years. Such marriages are most often doomed, and you will feel like a liar and suffer guilt when you want to leave it. After all, the years go by, and young people are drawn to their peers.

Morally it is necessary to prepare for the fact that professionally you have to start all over again. Many professions that require more talent than skill, like hairdressing, are available abroad only after special training and certification. It's easier for a business lady who knows foreign languages: business skills are relevant everywhere. Lawyers will have to be retrained completely. If you are not ready to sacrifice your career for the sake of your personal life, then it is better to seek a sweet one in your native country.

A separate conversation is an inter- marriage marriage with a foreigner from a developed state. Is it worth it to join? If you like other people of the race, feel free to marry. But try not to have children until you receive permanent documents. Because in Russia with a child of another race you will not have a peaceful life. So interracial marriage - this is for fans of extreme, although it can develop happily.

In order to get acquainted and develop into a serious relationship, one should treat search only as a work. Learn foreign languages and do not be lazy to respond to all incoming letters. Relationships often take shape in couples where a man has taken the initiative, but there are exceptions. So, if they write a little - write yourself. Do not give up, try and everything will turn out better than you think.