What you should not be ashamed of in a relationship?

Even after a long novel, there are sometimes more serious relationships than those during which lovers meet in a neutral territory. Man and woman begin to live together, most often this is preceded by a wedding, but in our tolerant age is not always. And now a person who was recently perceived as a romantic ideal can be observed constantly, he is almost always there, he has shortcomings, and most importantly, he realizes them. At times, each of the people living together, embraces the shame for some manifestation of their own imperfections. And should I succumb to this feeling? There are at least nine things that you should not be ashamed of, otherwise you can go too far and kill a real feeling. Here they are:

1. Contradictions

Sweet can be scolded, it's not scary. The main thing is that when the relations are clarified, the boundary of what is permitted is not crossed. Malice, hatred, the desire to hurt or offend a partner more painfully - all this can create that overstrain, after which there will be a crack, constantly growing and alienating loving people from each other. All the rest is completely permissible and even gives the relationship some sharpness, like sauce served to well-roasted meat.

2. Your own body

Yes, even in our age of permissiveness, sometimes bordering on cynicism, there are people who are embarrassed by their imperfect figure, both men and women. They try not to show a nude nature, they try to quickly turn off the light and whisk under the blanket. Well, not everyone can boast of the physique of Apollo Belvedere or Venus de Milo, but this is not scary, because a partner does not like a statue at all.

3. Physiological functions of the body

Perceiving your object of adoration as a creature, of course, extraterrestrial, we should not forget that everything inside it is arranged like other ordinary people. In the sense that apart from a loving and tender heart there is a stomach, a liver, kidneys and even (oh, horror) the intestine, including the fat one. And in the stomach sometimes he can suddenly grumble. And he goes to the toilet, at the best, regularly. Each of the spouses (or partners) has the right to do this, moreover, he simply can not do otherwise, and you do not need to be embarrassed at all.

4. Own opinion

This item has something in common with the previously described contradictions, but still it is a separate subject. The fact is that many have the fear of conflict because of differences of opinions on different issues, and because of him a person often becomes an uninteresting interlocutor, hiding his own view on controversial topics. But this is so impoverished relations! You can completely lose your personality. It's interesting to live with a person, and not with an eternally podding dummy, otherwise everyone would have had some kind of sham dolls, and would have slept with them.

5. Unsuccessful day

You can pretend that everything is fine at work, meeting people on the street, but not at home. If something has not been asked, and a person is upset, who else should pour out the soul, if not the one with whom fate has tied? Everyone has problems, they do not need to be embarrassed, and to look always strong and successful there is no need.

6. Failure

It happens that the mood is rubbish, and do not want to have fun, and even talk. His reluctance to engage in cute trivia, and sometimes even bedtime pleasures should be indicated, and in verbal form, and then there may be an impression of a non-existent offense caused by a loved one. It's easier to explain what's wrong, and take a timeout. There is nothing shameful about this, it happens to everyone.

7. Inability to dance

People often deny themselves this pleasure, thinking that if their skills are weaker than those of Maya Plisetskaya or Mahmud Esambaeva, then it's immodest to go to the dance floor. It is not so, if there is anyone with whom, and the music inspires, then why not try it? Then it turns out that it turns out not worse than the others. And maybe better. In extreme cases, you can rehearse alone, in front of the mirror. All will turn out!

8. The partner himself

If a person is chosen, then it is completely unacceptable to be embarrassed. Let him not be distinguished by the eloquence of Cicero, the figure of Schwarzenegger, does not wear ties from Armani and suits from Hugo Boss, and he drives the usual Zhiguli, and not the prestigious Mercedes, he is still the best. The same applies to women who do not have to all remind Marilyn Monroe or Sharon Stone. And if someone does not like your chosen one, then this is his problem. There will be no other. At least in this you need to believe.

9. Crying

In sad or, on the contrary, the most joyful moments this manifestation of emotions is completely permissible, regardless of sex. With a loved and loving person you can and cry, especially for the company. And if someone seems ridiculous, then let him laugh, unhappy.