Colin Tipping, "Radical forgiveness": reviews on the methodology

Remember a fantastic film with Arnold Schwarzenegger called "Remember All"? Imagine for a second the reverse situation - you have the opportunity to forget all the bad things in life. How would your life have changed? Of course, she would have become much better at times. You would not expect a dirty trick from people, they would not be afraid of disappointments, they would not worry about future grievances and misfortunes.

Is it possible? The author of the book "Radical forgiveness" claims that this is quite realistic, there would be a desire. In the end, all you need is to read the work that Colin Tipping wrote. "Radical forgiveness" invites you to go thirteen steps, after which you will become another person. This technique is not a religious, psychological or esoteric setting. Step by step, exploring the causes of your resentment, figuring mentally with the abusers, you can part with unnecessary emotions and become free.

The victim's archetype

Do you think that events that happened in the past can layer an imprint on the present? For example, a man broke his leg. Bones have grown together, but there is a lameness that sometimes appears. However, despite the fact that the physical body is visible, our emotional experiences can have far greater consequences for life than physical ones.

According to the author's thoughts Colin Tripping, each of us carries the traces of resentment of all life events. Any person has an archetype of a victim. No matter how strong he may seem to others and himself, from childhood memories of the injustice of others stretch.

Resentment of parents, educators, teachers, peers, friends accumulates like a heavy load. How many such a specific cargo can a twenty-year-old man have? At the age of forty? Therefore radical forgiveness is the only possible option to become free of this load and allow yourself to look at life freshly.

Who needs forgiveness?

Many believe that it is necessary to forgive, because it is necessary for our offenders. But Tipping believes differently. "Radical forgiveness" will help you first. The one who hurt you may have already forgotten about this a hundred times, moved to another city or even a country.

Resentment is nowhere, except in your memory. It turns out that if you can not really forgive a man, resentment will live with you and take away your strengths that could be very useful.

Negative for the person who gives grudge

Let's take a look at your life. If you are an absolutely happy person who is happy with everything and constantly smiles, then this article, like the book "Radical forgiveness," is not for you.

But such a person meets today at best one per thousand. In the rest, what do we have? Unacquainted parents, loud nasty neighbors, malicious colleagues, chef-tycoon, stupid teachers. All these people are no-no, and they give us emotional experiences. You can blame them for your own troubles, but it's easier to dig into yourself, find the strength to forgive the offender and start a new life, not burdened by anything. So, what are the 13 steps you need to take to clear the unnecessary cargo?

Step 1 and 2 - describe and present

At this step, you need to tell aloud about the situation that causes you strong negative emotions. Describe not only the actions committed by you and your offender, but also those emotions that you are experiencing about this.

Imagine a grievance in the form of pain that has accumulated somewhere on your body. Close your eyes, try to feel where it hurts. Put the palm there.

Step 3 and 4 - shout and be aware

The third step - do not hold back. Shout, cry, if you want - use obscene language. The technology of radical forgiveness implies complete freedom in manifesting your emotions.

The fourth step is awareness. Do you really think that all situations occurring in life are random? The technique of radical forgiveness from Colin Tipping offers you to realize that even such unpleasant moments as violence and insult from other people are given to you not accidentally. Understand and accept the fact that this is an occasion for your spiritual and physical development.

Steps 5 and 6 - understand and accept

Answer in the fifth step the following question: "Do you feel that the feeling of resentment prevents you from living?" This is one of the necessary parts of such a program as radical forgiveness. German Semenyuk in his technique also offers to answer this question. Awareness of this will help you quickly wish to get rid of unnecessary emotions.

The next step is to give up judgments. Forget that everything in the world is bad and good. It happened - well, it happened, it's now the business of the past.

7 step and 8 - stop judging yourself

Very often, thinking of his abusers, the person immediately says to himself: "Well, it serves me right, I myself am far from holy. I deserve it! "Until you forgive yourself, you will not forgive others. Remember, you are what you are.

If you want to improve, please, but accept yourself, love and forgive. Stop judging yourself and evaluate yourself. Performing in turn all 13 steps to radical forgiveness, pay special attention to the seventh step. Forgive all your sins. It's half the success.

The eighth step is closely related to the seventh - love yourself when you forgive. You are the greatest jewel in this world, and you are worthy of love, first of all from yourself.

9 and 10 step - your offenders are your teachers

Now you can think more broadly. Resentment and the offender came into your life not only to bring you bad emotions. It was a lesson to make you wiser, and the person who offended you is your teacher. You can, as a child, continue to sulk, but you can "grow up" and see the whole situation from the side.

Let us give an example. You get constant reproaches from the boss. It seems that everything in the workplace is not bad, and the salary is good, and the relations with colleagues, but the boss is simply unbearable. You are not guilty, you know that you are just an ideal worker. How to be, how to forgive the boss? Just let go of the situation. Think, but is it not a sign that it's time for you to change jobs, find a new, understanding chef?

Or here is another example. You are too busy with work, spend your whole life in the office and in communication with colleagues. And then you will find out what your beloved wife has changed. What to do, how to forgive her? Is it because of this that you did not pay attention to it? Because at first you betrayed her with her work?

The tenth step is to accept the fact that your abusers are worthy people who simply played their part to improve your life. That's what Colin Tipping offers. "Radical forgiveness" is a program that works only when you not only can forgive bad people, but also recognize that they are no worse than you. Yes, they played a negative role in your life. But are not they making you better, stronger today because of them? Where would you be and what would be with you, do not you survive a sometime difficult moment?

Eleventh and twelfth step - you get better

At the eleventh step, it is necessary to recognize the fact that in any situation, even the most unfavorable, there is a Divine or Supreme manifestation of wisdom and love. Whatever happens - it is so necessary, and first of all it is for you. Without this situation, you can not see, grow wiser, become better, braver, stronger.

Answer the question - do you feel that the offense is retreating, that you are better, easier? This is the twelfth step of the program "Radical Forgiveness." The testimonies of people who have passed the workshop from Tipping point out that the answer comes easily. And this answer is "yes". When you look at the situation with different eyes, giving up your own judgments, everything looks different. And offenders, and your feelings about it. You can understand that the situation was by no means accidental, but quite natural, based on what you had or how you behaved.

The final thirteenth step

The last step happens by itself. You just understand that something inside of you has changed for the better, as if the flow of energy has changed its direction. At the thirteenth stage, the old story goes even to the past, it moves into oblivion. Those forces that you spent on chewing a problem, its comprehension, are released. And now, a new one, you can devote your free time to creation, creation, and dreaming.

Summarizing

Since childhood, most of us are pining grudges. If we imagine our memory in the form of a bottomless closet, then we almost every day put there old, moth-eaten things, broken toys, unnecessary details and garbage.

Somewhere in the bookcase lie books, jewelry, new clothes, but among all this "junk" is what you need, and not find. The technique "Radical forgiveness" offers to effectively clear rubble and free space for yourself and your happy life. Do not ask the question about who needs it, since you need it.

Your offenders are not evil people or even forces. No, they are the same individuals as you, just for them a special role is assigned - to teach you something. Of course, studies can be with the help of "carrot", but if you have children or pets, then you understand that the "whip" is sometimes inevitable. Therefore, do not judge the wrongs of your offenders, do not wish them griefs - they were necessary to you no less than your friends. Take the lesson, and the abusers, resentment and all the emotions that destroy you just let go. It will be very easy to do after going through 13 steps of radical forgiveness according to Colin Tipping's program.