Marriages Are Happy by Design?

Wedding is the most important step in the life of every woman, and it is necessary to think carefully and carefully when choosing a partner in life. However, young ladies are not always young, but sometimes older women are ready to listen to the call of the heart. The fact is that the call of the heart is often drowned out by the passion for material well-being - it is in such situations that marriages arise that later turn into big problems.

It should be noted that marriages by calculation are not exclusively a feminine feature - some men also consider marriage a good way to improve their material well-being. But we must pay tribute to the representatives of the strong half of humanity: having properly weighed what is better - marriage by love or by calculation, most of them prefer the first option. Today we will talk about whether a situation is possible, in which marriages can be the basis for a long and happy family life.

Among young people and girls aged 20 to 30 years, according to polls of sociologists, there is an opinion that love is not at all an obligatory condition for marriage. They say that these are all remnants of the past, and it is more important for a modern person to calculate and material benefit than some ephemeral love, which can not be touched with hands or put in a pocket. We will not touch on the moral side of this issue, but we immediately note one very important point: young people simply do not realize how difficult it is to live next to an unloved person, even if they have a full purse. A woman aged more mature, marrying by calculation, deliberately goes to life with an unloved person, and subconsciously feels like a victim. However, she does not understand that she herself is doing this sacrifice, and whether her marriage is calculated by a real family, or whether she remains a commercial transaction, depends only on her.

However, it would be wrong to say that marriages by calculation always mean a notorious failure and an unfortunate family. By no means - and examples of many women confirm this. Sometimes it happens that a marriage, which from the very beginning was planned solely as a mutually beneficial transaction, later became something more than just living together for a while. Between the people there were those feelings, which in sight did not exist, when they put signatures in the register of marriages of the registry office. And as a result, their marriage became almost ideal, combining both material security and spiritual intimacy, without which a full-fledged family is impossible.

So how can you make a marriage for the calculation of a marriage for love? To answer this question, it is necessary to understand that love can not be "grafted" or forcefully driven into a partner. This feeling can appear only itself, without rough external influence, and the partner can promote its maturing, creating for the spouse the comfortable situation in the house and a family cosiness. And this is very difficult - you need to stop considering your spouse only as a source of material prosperity, and begin to see in him a person. For example, each person has his own little weaknesses - so why not spend a very little time and not make your partner a pleasant one by presenting an unusual ashtray in his collection, or buying two tickets for a concert of his beloved band. Obviously, these gifts will not require large material costs, but they can help create the feeling of closeness and spiritual comfort, without which family happiness is impossible .

Also, women who were forced to marry by fate, experts in the field of family psychology recommend that you ask your husband for money less often. Otherwise, this action will clearly be associated with the mercantile nature of your relationship, and it will not lead to anything good. And vice versa - the more successfully you get a job and the more you can invest in the family budget - the higher the probability that sooner or later your spouse will see in you not just a toy bought for money, but a woman with whom he wants to live his entire life a life.

If you can not just follow the recommendations given, but also try to find common points of contact, with your husband, then you can be sure that your children will look at marriages by calculation with surprise, without understanding how this parents can not to love each other? And perhaps you will celebrate the anniversary of your wedding not on the day you signed in the registry office, but when you first fell asleep like a loving husband and wife.