The pretentiousness and uncompromising personality

Predictability as a quality of personality - the tendency to make great demands on anyone, anything, not to be satisfied with what you have.

A pretension towards yourself is one of the many forms of manifestation of pride. A person can claim perfection and a nothingness. And in this and in the other case, his pretension means the revelry of pride. A woman comes to confession and says: Oh! I am the most fallen of all women. The most fallen! And he hears in reply: You are not the most fallen. You're just fallen!

         The complexity of understanding pretentiousness as a person's quality is explained by the fact that it manifests itself differently in people in goodness, passion and ignorance. Hence the diametrically opposite conclusions and assessments of people with a pronounced personal claim. A benevolent person, whose life conception consists in selfless service to people, will say: "Predictability is the absence of kindness!" Kindness for him is the foundation of principles. From it, it measures its thoughts and actions. The blessed person will say that a person will not achieve happiness from the realization of material goals. He is necessarily waiting for disappointment or immediately, as soon as material desire has come true, or at the end of life, when he is old, weak and no one needs.

Happiness does not depend on furniture, gear, quads, apartments, yachts and bank accounts. Happiness is spiritual, it lives in the sphere of profound, unselfish, love communication, and not in the sphere of satisfying its material claims. To search for the spiritual in the material is also absurd, how to conduct a survey about the existence of chastity among prostitutes. The billionaire still sees greedy views of children and relatives on his capitals. They, too, have their own claims, their own right. They think: "It would be faster to glue flippers, the old devil." There is no love, sincerity and kindness in sight, but you want to be loved, not your plants and steamboats. One elderly billionaire once said: "I only spent five million dollars on flowers to women. I spent the rest of the money in vain. "

The parents' pride is a blow to the destinies of children. A blessed person, raising a child, thinks, first of all, about revealing his purpose, finding the sphere of life, behind which the child's talent hides . Five and two do not bother him much. He understands that it is necessary to instill in the child spiritual, not informative knowledge. If you cultivate good qualities of a person in him , he will always acquire a qualification when he discovers his interest in some occupation. A blessed person literally explores a child, trying to find that "zest", which will determine the direction of its further development. If in the process of upbringing the boy - troychnik has acquired such qualities of a person as responsibility, purposefulness, determination, perseverance, persistence and persistence, he will quickly acquire professional skills in his favorite business. At the same time, an excellent student, crushed by the increased demands of parents, their inflated claims, often grows insecure and does not do his own thing. Therefore, nothing is achieved, but only suffers from an incorrectly chosen specialty.

The parents' pride is imposition of their understanding of happiness. Many great artists and composers fathers said: "You will be a lawyer, like me!" - "Dad, but I'm not interested. I want to be ... "-" No! You will be a lawyer, and the point. I'll send you to England. Listen to Dad - you will live. " Parents who adhere to the passionate concept of happiness, believe that the main thing is to give the child a professional education. Send him to a foreign country. A few years later, a completely different person comes to biological parents. They did not bring him up, did not communicate with him spiritually, did not put his soul and heart in him. He became an investment of capital - a value that brings surplus value. He does not like his parents, he despises or hates his homeland. Everything here is alien and foul.

Let's say that parents arranged their child in a warm place. But if he has a bad character, he will spoil relations with his superiors and his colleagues at any job. Showing disloyalty and intolerance, he will prove to everyone that he is right, cut down the truth-womb, condemn the authorities and humiliate the subordinates. Constantly angry and irritated, he will not be able to lead people. Despite the elite education, the structure, like any normal system, will detach it as a harmful element. Experienced personnel officers choose not professionals, but people with good personal qualities. They know that they will gain professional skill quickly thanks to their character. That's why children need to be given moral education in parallel with the informative, and not simply clog memory with a lot of information that does not become practical knowledge.

Man in passion shows the level of his claims through the degree of difficulty of the tasks assigned to him. If his "I want" and "I can" are friends with each other, then the person is moderately ambitious and realistic. Often, the level of claims of people in passion is determined by success or failure in overcoming the difficulties that have arisen: success prefers to choose more difficult tasks (increase in the level of claims), failures - on the contrary, are easier. Many people are concerned not to succeed, but to avoid failure.

Uncertainty as a person's quality is the ability not to make big demands on anyone, anything, to be content with what you have.

How unassuming a camel is, but he was tormented by fifty-degree heat. Barely walks through the desert and a donkey runs to meet him jogging. A camel asks him: - Why are you fleeing the flap, because the heat is what? - Yes, I'm running, and the breeze blows me and it does not get too hot. The camel thought and how it drank ... And the Donkey ran on and saw the Bedouins standing around on the edge of the desert. A donkey approaches one of them and asks: "What happened?" And the Bedouin answers: - Yes, here, the camel has frozen!

Involuntarily you want to reach out to a man who is unpretentious to others and strict to himself. An authoritative personality. You feel that there is kindness, simplicity and truthfulness in it, you understand that a person is not friends with discontent, his way of thinking rejects negative emotions connected with conviction and accusation of others.

Unwillingness towards other people is one of the captured images of kindness. Unfamiliarity is far from identical to asceticism, it assumes an ordinary way of life, but without pampering, excesses, indulgences and indulgences towards oneself. She is alien to the debauchery of her body. Acting in this vein, unpretentiousness accumulates forces in order to react properly to life circumstances and other people's opinions. An unpretentious person on himself realized how difficult it is to cultivate dignity in himself and how badly abandoned places are perverse inclinations. This takes time and, most importantly, understanding by the mind of another taste of happiness. Therefore, he is indulgent with the shortcomings of others. Anyone will feel sympathy for a man who kindly reacts to all his wits of the mind, with understanding refers to his inner state. In addition, others like that unpretentious to the conditions of life people are always and everywhere happy, cheerful, cheerful and happy.

The great advantage of being unpretentious is the lack of suffering that its opposite brings - the pretension. For example, an unassuming man got married and, after a while, saw a metamorphosis, as from a cheerful immediate nanny his wife becomes ambitious, pretentious and scandalous. He does not sound alarm, says to himself that the wife is from God and continues to see in her good qualities of character. Because the person, who is unpretentious to other people, is by definition good, he seeks to change himself in the right direction. He understands: "If I can not teach my wife to behave properly with me, she will never be happy. I will change, it will change too. "

A vivid example of unpretentiousness is the spiritual leader and leader of the Indian Independence Movement, Mahatma Gandhi. Painter Paul Gauguin left for 53 years in Tahiti, where in completely unusual conditions for him creates masterpieces of painting. The Curie couple made their outstanding discoveries in a barn with a leaking roof. They, naturally, would like to have a good well-equipped laboratory, but for want of a better one, they were satisfied with the worst. In other words, unpretentiousness is false in the context of the psychology of poverty. Uncertainty is not a denial of wealth, it is the ability to go to its goal, despite the lack of acceptable conditions. A pretension is a "princess on a pea". Unassuming is Diogenes in a barrel, who, seeing a boy drinking from his hands, threw out his cup with the words: "The child has surpassed me in unpretentiousness."

Unfamiliarity is strictness towards oneself and tolerance towards others. Showing restraint and balance in dealing with people, unpretentiousness towards people is colored in their eyes with noble tones. This is true, because seeing in people the best, acting in accordance with conscience and being strictly demanding of oneself, unpretentiousness goes in a bunch with nobility.

Unprincipled means understanding the laws of life. In this world there is nothing accidental. The iron law of the universe - the law of cause and effect inexorably acts in every episode of life. There is a reason for every investigation. An unaccountable person realizes that he lives in this country, in this family, and it's all not accidental. Today's level of consciousness and worldview forces him to live in these conditions. That is, he lives with people and in the conditions he deserves. The mind will be cleared, its taste of happiness will change, and, as if by magic, life will change. There will be corresponding friends in the environment, new desires will arise. Unprincipledness believes in the harmony of the world, in the action of the laws of the universe and therefore absolutely convinced that it will receive from life exactly as much as it deserves.