Psychologist Galina Belozub: the causes of female loneliness

Galina Belozub as a psychologist often receives treatment from clients: "I have so many years, but I do not marry, there is no family." Like everything she has - and beauty, and mind, and profession. And my mother sighs, and friends / acquaintances pester the question: "Well, did not you get married?" Factors that affect the fact that a modern young lady is not married by the age of thirty may be different, Galina Belozub believes. However, if we summarize all these reasons, we can distinguish three main. The first is a negative attitude towards men. There is such a situation in childhood, and it is better to solve these problems with the help of a psychologist. The second reason is low self-esteem and lack of self -love. A woman with such a self-esteem does not believe that she can be loved, that she is worthy of attention. And, to avoid the pain of rejection, she refuses to communicate with men. The third reason is the increased level of claims. Flight from reality into illusion. Like every therapist, Galina Belozub works with these problems in her practice.

Books written by her cause wide interest among the public. The most famous of these is The Crisis of the Forty: Advice to the Modern Woman. Also in 2007 she published the book "Marriage from dawn to dusk", dedicated to the theme of marriage and marriage, on how to meet your other half. Her book "We choose, we are chosen" more affects the topic of the choice of partner.

Injuries that affect personal life

Any negative emotional event that was with a person in childhood, has a strong influence on his entire future life. As a result, there are consequences of psychological trauma: low self-esteem, various fears, uncertainty, isolation. And while a person does not heal his psychological trauma of childhood, people and circumstances will be attracted to him, which will aggravate it. The theme of healing emotional trauma is very painful and urgent. Canadian psychologist Liz Burbo gave a very accurate classification of injuries and their causes:

• Trauma of the outcast;
• Trauma of the abandoned;
• Trauma of the humiliated;
• Trauma of the devotee;
• A trauma of injustice.

At receptions, customers somehow return to their childhood and those events that continue to affect them. With these injuries you need to work with a specialist, says Galina Belozub. The biography of this psychologist suggests that she is a lot printed in popular publications, for example, in the magazine "My Family".

How to reduce the impact of injuries on personal life?

We remember the emotions and feelings that we experienced, accept them, saying certain words: "I accept, I recognize ...". Galina Belozub believes that we so rarely appeal to ourselves, to our consciousness, that in these rare moments our body, ours, I just let off traumatic situations in gratitude. It is necessary to treat these injuries, the psychologist Galina Belozub is convinced. The family, of course, is the place where all problems are born.

Association

An association is a link, a mental process, when two emotional states or concepts are related, are in a spike. For example, love and suffering. For someone, these concepts are the same in meaning. Why? Because around (or in films) a person sees only the sufferings of lovers. Or for someone, "family" is associated with the word "happiness", and for someone - with the words "grief and pain." These associations also prevent the formation of healthy relationships with the opposite sex and build a full-fledged family in later life.

Loyalty

The strongest loyalty is patrimonial, when our roots go to our ancestors. When the devotion, for example, of our ancestors to their leader or tribe saved their lives. You are loyal to your mother. Mom is one, she lived all her life without her husband, she is unhappy. You will not allow yourself to be happy in solidarity with your mother! How?! I?! I will have a family !? Mom can not stand it! Or as a sign of solidarity with his son, my mother does not marry a second time. That is, energetically the woman is already married: for her son, for the child, for her mother, for her father! There is a loyalty to the profession, when a person devotes himself to his work, for example, a scene. In this case, loyalty to the case, apparently, also helped survive the ancestors, it is subconsciously sitting in the modern generation. There is a loyalty to the environment - all the friends are single, and we are all my life, how can I betray them? How to "clean" loyalty? There are certain techniques and practices that are used by the psychologist in personal consultations. They are based on acceptance and very effective. Galina Belozub herself has a lasting marriage for over twenty years, brought up two children. The experience of her family, she often brings to work with those who need her advice and help.