Snoha is the successor of the family

The son is going to marry and introduces his bride to his parents. Will they be happy with it, how will they welcome the young into their family, will they have warm and cordial relations with her, like real relatives? Why do some families have an irreconcilable struggle between a young wife and her son's mother? Let's try to understand.

What does it mean?

For starters, it should be noted that the daughter-in-law is the wife of the son. But only in relation to the father of her husband. But for the mother-in-law she is the daughter-in-law. Why is there such confusion? And why is it considered that the "daughter-in-law" is almost an abusive word?

There are two opinions. The first thing that the word "daughter-in-law" is an exact analogue to the concept "daughter-in-law". The second opinion is that this is a woman who has been married for some time and has had a baby.

Incorrect, the idea of the meaning of the word is associated with its cacophony and similarity in sound with the word "intercourse". It is worth noting that when the family status of "daughter-in-law" appeared in everyday life, this concept did not exist yet.

For example, in the dictionary of V. Dahl, the concept of "demolish" has one of its meanings - "endure". It is most suitable for the status of a new relative, since her role was more than dependent, compared to other members of the family.

Another version

There is one more version that the daughter-in-law is one that is "on slaves". That is, a woman, not just coming from another village and family, but already having some experience and communication with a new name. She is waiting for a new member of the family, which means that there will be a continuation of the family. In support of this version, the folk saying is very appropriate: "A snail is more generous than a generous one."

Irreconcilable struggle?

If there is a conflict between the mother-in-law and the son's wife, it is only because of the woman's jealousy and stupidity. Mother does not want to put up with the second role in the life of her grown-up child and pester the young girl: it's not the way she cooks, or she does not say, the character of bad and suchlike proverbs.

A woman who lives with her mother-in-law in one house should develop a special strategy for approaching her husband's mother. It is obvious that the new relative is not at all an enemy for her, but a native and close person for her son. It was his mother-in-law who gave birth, brought up and instilled in him those qualities for which his young woman fell in love and appreciated. So why should not the mother of the husband love? We must try to find contact with her, and mutual insults and insults are unacceptable. This will only lead to the death of a young family.

How to behave

Wisdom is knowledge. As a bride, the girl should ask about the preferences of her new relatives, try to find out birthdays, important dates, interests and hobbies. Then she will surely like the groom's mother, who later calls her "good daughter-in-law" and treats her like a daughter. However, the rule of being kind to the mother-in-law, to respect and respect her, should not be forgotten after marriage.

What are the steps to take a girl who is going to join a new family? You can start with a small one: congratulate you on your birthday, say: "how well you look," "but can I have a recipe for your wonderful salad?", And the heart of the icy mamma of her mother is cast aside. Not far off gifts, cordial greetings to the daughter-in-law, compliments. A young spouse will be happy if peace and harmony prevail in the house. And what else needs a tender and loving wife?