Philophobia - what is it? How does the fear of love arise?

Today we will talk about the fear of a feeling of love, a love that makes a man obsessed with him do everything possible to destroy relations in an embryonic state, a fear that is becoming more and more widespread among contemporaries. So, phylophobia - what is it?

How is phylophobia manifested?

From other people, phylophobes differ in that they are comfortable only with those who definitely can not cause love. That is, with a partner who humiliates or despises - behaves not at all like a lover. It is this kind of attitude that makes a person obsessed with phobia feel safe.

But do not think, reflecting on the concept of "phylophobia", that this is a state that is akin to masochism. No, the phylophobe for such perverted relations, as a rule, does not dare, there is a developed self-preservation instinct in it , and therefore more often than not it remains a lonely, childless creature.

Philophobia: what it is and how it develops

The banal sounding truth that "we all come from childhood" is absolutely fair for philofobs, because their problems originate from childhood fears of those events witnessed by the child. It can be:

• A difficult fate of the father or mother, the fault for which the child laid on one of the parents;
• The coming as a result of the love of the pope or mother in the family of stepfather or stepmother. By the way, they do not necessarily have to be bad for the child;
• The birth of a younger brother or sister who took away the attention of their parents. Because of this, love for the older child has become something terrible, leading to loneliness.

But such a degeneration of attitudes towards the feeling of love can develop in an adult. As a rule, the basis for this is the fear of being responsible for someone you love, and those brought up in a despotic family - the fear of losing their freedom. It is not uncommon and the fear of repeating the already sad experience of their relations.

Phylophobia: symptoms

There is phylophobia in the recurring now and then outcome of any affection of the possessed. He, like others, is looking for attention and care in the partner, but as soon as the latter begins to manifest them, the phylophobe in every possible way moves away from the object of his interest, goes to a conflict, just to interrupt the frightening relationship.

In more severe cases, such people try to even disfigure their appearance so as not to become the object of love: they injure themselves or bring themselves to severe obesity. And sometimes they show extreme aggression to the one who likes, being afraid that he will reciprocate. But if the partner is not only not interested in philophobia, but also rude to him, the obsessed involuntarily reaches out to such a person, feeling that it is here his "safe zone".

Phylophobia: treatment

As you already understood, this deviation requires the obligatory help of the therapist. But it should be remembered that neither hypnosis, nor coding, nor psychotropic medications will help in this situation. To heal the phylophobe, conversations are needed that correct the consciousness. After all, it is extremely important for him to understand how his philophobia arose, what it is and how to fight it. Immediately need to say that the prognosis in this disease is very good, as ten people out of eleven are completely healed of their agonizing condition.