Mom said that you can not trust a man ... How to deal with stereotypes?

Fortunately, now there are fewer and fewer girls being brought up in petty-bourgeois and stodgy traditions. Nevertheless, there are families where mothers and grandmothers vied with each other that one can not trust a man in anything that anyone who wants to meet a young lady is looking for easy entertainment. Is this so and how dangerous are such stereotypes about gender relations?

Of course, time is now a difficult, dangerous, unsettling. Increasingly, a person has to make his own choice, take responsibility for the deeds done. There is no institute of matchmaking, when the condemned was checked up to the tenth generation and only then were graciously allowed to ask the girl's hands from a good house. The seriousness of the intentions with respect to the lady seemed to be an indicator of the reliability of marriage and future spouse. But now we laugh at many stereotypes. After all, they depend mainly on our negative experience or - even worse - on the prejudices thrown into the head of the older generation. People brought up in the system of total control and suspicion are sure, firstly, that one can not trust a man, and secondly (it concerns potential mother-in-law) that all the girls just look to the purse or pocket of the future groom.

You can live in an atmosphere of suspicion and fear, but what kind of life is this? If a young girl was hammered from the childhood into the head that one can not trust a man in anything, then how can she see a potential partner in a person? Will he understand and appreciate his needs, his feelings, his positive qualities? Or will it be treated as an enemy, with suspicion, and only wait for the slightest mistake?

According to modern psychologists and family therapists, there is nothing that can not be trusted by a man. On the contrary, any measures aimed at preserving a family or union, in the first place, mean openness and sincerity. Not trusting another person, the closest one, we deprive ourselves of the most important thing - a true cordial communication with him. Stereotypes in marriage can only aggravate problems. In fact, there is practically nothing that can not be trusted by a man. A loving man and baby will be repainted, and dinner will be prepared, and the family will provide. Families in whom roles have long been rigidly distributed, wonder how a young man can learn to serve himself, and, if necessary, his wife and child. After all, none of us is immune from illness, temporary disability, life disasters.

If we proceed from the principle that no one can be trusted, we can never build a harmonious relationship with another person. Think about yourself: how would you feel if you were perceived by others only as a source of problems or a dangerous person? True, uncomfortable situation? Prejudices about the roles of the sexes - such as that one can not trust a man, that all girls are frivolous and are looking for wealthy spouses, that a woman should stay at home and raise children, and a partner will make a living - only complicate our relationship. The first step on the road to harmony in marriage will be just sincerity and warmth. They are impossible without real - complete - trust.