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How to communicate with the child? Gippenreiter Yu.B., professor of psychology at Moscow State University, talks about this in his book
The main thing in communicating with the child is unconditional acceptance and unconditional, price-free love. It is unconditional, i.е. "Just like that," just as it is and only for what it is. To learn to communicate precisely from the point of view of a loving and accepting parent, and not an angry and articulate claim, to help find a solution to the problem without hindering the child, to teach to bear some responsibility for the consequences of such offers Yu. Gippenreiter.
Listen to hear
So how to communicate with the child? Gippenreiter Yu.B. Advises you to master the technique of "active listening", allowing you to establish contact with the interlocutor and show that his problems are close to you, that you understand and sympathize with him. In detail it is described in the book by Yu. Gippenreiter "Communicate with the child. How? "According to the author, to build the right dialogue and adjust the child to communicate - the first steps to solving the problem.
Another method that allows you to decide how to communicate with the child, Gippenreiter Yu.B. Calls the method of "I - messages". With its help, you can express your attitude, namely your experiences about the current conflict situation, not giving an assessment of the actions of the interlocutor. An example of "I am a message" is the phrase "I was very upset because of today's quarrel" instead of "You are messages" "You behaved disgustingly and I was upset." "I - messages," according to the author, do not blame, but only express your attitude to what happened, which is important in communicating with any person, and even more so with a child, a teenager. Thanks to this method of communication, the child's self-esteem does not suffer, his self-esteem does not hurt, and there is no protective negative reaction.
Theory and practice
On the question: "How to communicate with the child?" Gippenreiter Yu.B. Does not give the only true answer. She suggests thinking, improving, empathizing, learning to think outside the box, accepting the child unconditionally and first of all remembering that he is a beloved, dear and infinitely dear to you person.
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