Conflicts in the organization. How to solve them?

As much as we do not want the opposite, but conflicts in the organization, alas, are not uncommon. This, rather, is already the "prose of life", rather than an exception to the rules. At the same time, the situation is aggravated by all sorts of crises, forcing both managers and ordinary workers to worry and calculate all the options. In such difficult conditions of modern life, conflicts in the organization happen even more often, because the situation itself is heated to the limit.

But is there really no way out now and only have to put up with it? And maybe there are options, how can you protect yourself from long conflicts and solve everything peacefully?

Let's turn to the advice of psychologists-specialists in conflict situations. So, if the conflicts in the organization mature or periodically occur, then remember a few rules.

First, put yourself, say, in the place of the boss (for example, we take the conflict with the boss, and not with colleagues or subordinates, because the approach in each case must be completely different). Think about the fact that perhaps the boss is not such a tyrant as you think. Do you know how his day goes? It is no less a burden of responsibility than on you. And most likely, even more. The boss also has his own bosses and they ask him, most likely, more than he asks from you. Put yourself in his place, I think that much will be cleared up.

The second. Think about why you are working at this job in general? Are there any positive moments that make you hold onto this place? Perhaps, the salary is not that small, or simply you do not yet have other offers with a higher salary. Maybe the place of work is located next to the house or the duties that you carry out are not that complicated. If you focus on positive points, then professional conflicts will not seem so inevitable to you. Everywhere look for positive moments.

In addition, if the conflicts in the organization are out of balance and you can not do anything about it, give yourself a vow. For example, I should (should) finalize before the end of this year. Then I'll take leave / sick leave and start looking hard for a new job. Do not sit and do not think that you are in a yoke that obliges you now to work here all the conscious life. Not at all. You do not owe anything to anyone, just as no one owes you anything. Another thing is that leaving thus from conflicts, you will not get a guarantee that the new place of work and the boss will be "soft and fluffy", and the team is well-coordinated. As if I did not want to disappoint you, but, alas, it can happen that all the same problems are waiting for you in your new place of work. Therefore, it is better not to run away from conflicts. We must work on ourselves, be able to say no and know the tactics of behavior in conflict situations.

The next point, which is important to remember when conducting "fighting" - watch what you say. If you, giving in to emotions, cry out that you are no longer going to work in such a situation, then think about what will happen when the conflict passes? And it will pass necessarily. You will either have to keep your promise, or ... admit your injustice.

And last but not least. Think, can you make a good impression? Are you in a good mood? A person who has a special zest, is pleasant in communication, well dressed, fragrant with fresh fragrances, knows what good manners are, has the right speech, can boast of a lack of bad habits, comes on time, keeps his workplace clean, etc. - can not make a perfect impression on others, including the authorities. Of course, this is not a guarantee that there will be no conflicts, but the probability of "unreasonable raids" from others is drastically reduced. Such people are respected.

Conflicts at work are not a reason to be depressed.