Angry, stinging person: definition

Negative qualities of a person are by no means inborn signs. This is a consequence of upbringing and the lack of a healthy self-analysis, which encourages not only to look for patterns that people around perceive negatively, but also to eradicate them.

"The sarcastic person" - so they say about fans to release evil jokes. From humor, these jokes are distinguished by the goal: do not cheer up the interlocutors and cheer them up, but morally exalt yourself over others.

Causes of behavior

Paradoxically, an evil, sarcastic man is the product of our society, the result of his inability to resist behavior that is already beyond the boundaries of polite communication, but is not yet a legal violation.

The human psyche is focused on reacting to all signals from the outside world and adapting to it, changing the line of behavior. For this there is a negative and positive reinforcement: every time a person receives a worthy rebuff after an evil joke, his desire to continue to behave in an inappropriately manner is reduced by an order of magnitude.

In the event that he received positive reinforcement in the form of the absence of a negative reaction, his desire to continue to behave is sarcastically increasing.

This does not always happen consciously: often a person simply can not reflect his own behavior, does not think about not only whether his words can hurt others, but also does not concern himself with the reason why the desire to say offensive taunts in general arose.

Originally from childhood

Many evils of behavior until recently were justified by incorrect education or psychological trauma received by a person in childhood. In this light, even the most evil, sarcastic, insidious person becomes a victim of circumstances and ceases to be responsible for his actions.

Modern psychology with great skepticism refers to the idea of looking for reasons for behavior in a child's life. The mentality of each of us is a very plastic thing, it can easily be changed under the influence of only two factors: motivation (desire to change something) and steps in this direction.

How does a caustic person behave?

The encounter with a caustic person is a real test for many people. After all, he is able not just to play a trick, he has the ability to see the hidden complexes of a person, pull them out into the light and present them in a grotesque manner.

For example, for a girl who feels uncertain about the shape of the nose, this type will instantly come up with an impartial comparison with the animated character. A quiet and timid person, he will strive to make the focus of attention.

Paradoxically, people can unconsciously strive to get closer to such a person, trying to protect themselves from witty attacks. But a rare close of such an individual will not receive his portion of humorous insults - this is the line of behavior that a sarcastic person adheres to. The signs by which you can recognize a person prone to cruel jokes and ridicule look like this:

• Does not show sympathy for other people;
• Behaves uninhibited, even with unfamiliar people or in a business setting;
• Accuses politeness of insincerity.

Sometimes to understand that before you a sarcastic person, you can by his behavior, even if his verbal aggression is directed at another interlocutor. There is every reason to believe that sooner or later, under the sight of his offensive comments, you will fall.

How to behave with a caustic person?

"Do not pay attention to insults, and a sarcastic person will leave you behind, he will get bored with you" - a popular opinion that only partially reflects reality.

To get up one level with an insult and try to respond to the attack with a more caustic joke, really, it's not worth it. First, to enter into a duel with a weapon, which the evil joker has in perfect, means, in most cases, to lose to him.

Secondly, picking wit is a big waste of time, and no sarcastic person is worth it to give him precious minutes.

The best way to fight is the physical distance or emotional separation from that person. That is, to get up and leave is really the right choice if the offense was deliberately and cruelly inflicted, and not an escape from the "battlefield".

Before the distance, you can express in a brief form a negative attitude to what has been said, make it clear that this style of communication is not appropriate, so there is no point in continuing the dialogue. In the event that a caustic person repents and regrets that his acuity has wounded an indifferent companion, he will certainly let know about it.

The impact of self-esteem

A reliable armor, which no evil joke can overcome, is a stable and good self-esteem. It is very important to evaluate yourself correctly, not overestimating your own expectations from your person, but also without understating them.

A person with a steady self-esteem usually looks confident, calm and relaxed. Even if an insult, veiled in jest, is released in his direction, he will rather be surprised than be upset or offended. However, this does not prevent him from moving away from such an interlocutor: after all, the ability to evaluate oneself correctly holds a bonus in the form of the ability to correctly recognize the attitude of other people towards oneself, without justifying them and not building empty illusions.

Emotional distance

It is easy to physically move away from a cruel joker when he is a casual acquaintance or a new friend. But what if a sarcastic, insidious person - your colleague, whose face you see for 40 hours a week? Or, what's more unpleasant, your immediate boss?

In this case, it is necessary to learn how to distance yourself emotionally, to close. Thus with the person it is possible to continue a dry and polite communication on work. But any attempts to translate the conversation into a personal channel must be firmly, but correctly stopped.

If the outrageous behavior of a colleague does not stop, you can and need to contact the immediate supervisor to resolve the conflict situation. And if the source of ridicule is the boss himself, it makes sense to think about finding a new job, temporarily putting the inner block on all the jokes he says.