15 things that need to be abandoned to become a happy person

Before your eyes, a list of 15 things, if you refuse, your life will be much easier. We hold a lot of internal positions that lead to pain, suffering and constant stressful conditions, instead of simply allowing ourselves to let them go and finally plunge into complete freedom. But instead we all intend to cling to them firmly. It's time to stop doing this now, starting today, we will methodically get rid of those positions that we do not need and let's start to let in positive changes in our lives. Becoming a happy person can be from now on, so - go ahead!

1. Get rid of the need to always and in everything be right.

Many of us day by day adhere to a stable position, in which we permanently feel ourselves right in any and all questions and life conflicts, even in the event that this can break off a serious relationship with a spiritually close person, even in those moments, When own "rightness" brings mental anguish to itself and to surrounding people. Whenever you feel the urge to fight for the right, ask the inner question in the same way as Dr. Wayne Dyer did: "What difference does it make whether I'm right or wrong? What will it give me? Is my ego so big?" .

2. Give up the need for control.

You can become a happy person if you are prepared to give up the need to control everything that is happening to you and surround you. This applies to situations, events, other people, and it does not matter - they are close or colleagues, just let them be in your life to some extent, and you will notice how much your internal state of health will feel.

"Allow everything to happen and be accomplished, the world will be conquered by those who released it, if you do not do it, the world will defeat you," said Lao Tzu.

3. Refuse to blame for all its manifestations.

Do not support your need to blame others for not having something that you feel or do not feel. Stop putting your authority on someone else's shoulders and take responsibility for your life, and you will be surprised that you start to become a happy person.

4. Stop self-deprecation.

A very large number of people feel nasty because of the pernicious way of thinking, filled with a large amount of negativity towards oneself. Do not believe everything that your mind tells you.

"The mind is a wonderful tool if you know how to use it correctly." If used improperly, it becomes a destructive tool "(Eckhart Tolle).

5. Give up the beliefs that limit you.

Do not let your old beliefs have power over you, do not let them dictate what you can and can not do. "Faith is not an idea that belongs to the mind, it is an idea that keeps it" (Elli Karkade).

6. Stop complaining.

Get rid of your already constant need to complain about people, the world and all that makes you unhappy and depressed. Remember, nothing can send you such a deplorable state of mind, unless you yourself desire it. Do not underestimate the power of a positive way of thinking, become a happy person and think in a bright light. Stop complaining and you will noticeably improve the quality of your life!

7. Refuse to yourself in luxury to criticize everyone and everything.

Get rid of your desire to constantly criticize things, occurring events and other people who may be different from you. We are all different, but each of us wants to be a happy person, to be loved and to be understood. We all want something, just like something or someone wants from us some involvement.

8. Give up the need to make an impression on others.

Stop, finally, try to seem that person to whom you really are not. In those moments when you stop pretending to be someone else and take off all your masks, you will come across a real self, and the attention of others will remain focused on you without any heavy efforts.

9. Do not resist change.

Changes are always good, they will help greatly improve your life and the lives of those around you. "Directly follow your happiness, and you will see how the universe will show you the doors in those places, you always saw only the walls" (Joseph Campbell).

10. Give up ethics.

Stop labeling people and events that you can not understand, just open your mind.

"The highest form of ignorance is the case when you reject something without knowing anything about it" (Dr. Wayne Dyer).

11. Give up your fears.

Fear is just an illusion, in fact it is not - it's you who created it yourself, everything is just your consciousness. "The only thing to be afraid of is fear itself" (Franklin Roosevelt).

12. Give up your own excuses.

Collect them all in a box and tell them that they are fired. How many times have we limited ourselves to the power of our own justifications, instead of growing and working on ourselves and improving our own lives, we found excuses for not doing this. Stop doing this.

13. Release the past.

Yes, it is really very difficult, especially when the past looks better than the present, and the future appears in dark colors. However, remember that the present moment is all that you have and will ever have. Let go of the past, throw away yearning for it, it is no more, enough to deceive yourself, be here and now and enjoy the current moment.

14. Give up attachment.

You can separate yourself from the phenomena and things that surround you, it does not mean that you will give up the feeling of love for all this, no. Love and affection have a completely different nature, and attachment is generated by the fear of losing something, and love is always something pure, kind and selfless. Wherever there is, there is no room for fear, when you realize this, you can hardly describe in words this serene bliss.

15. Do not interfere in your life with the expectations of others.

Many people live their lives in direct correspondence with what other people think about them: parents, teachers, friends and enemies. Such people completely ignore their inner desires and their inner voice, they are so busy that they correspond to the opinion of the others that in this race they lose all control over their real life. Realize that you have only one life, and it lives right at this moment, you must be its owner, do not let the opinions of others distract you from your path.