Why does not the child want to go to kindergarten? We accustom the child to a new environment

With the situation when a child does not want to go to kindergarten, many parents face. If this occurs at the very beginning, you can understand - in some children the adaptation period takes up to several weeks. But how to be, if time goes, and desires to go to a garden at your child still not?

To begin with, it is worthwhile to understand why a child does not want to go to kindergarten. The simplest and most obvious reason is the unwillingness of a child to become accustomed to changing the situation and the routine of the day. In particular, this refers to those children who are given to a kindergarten aged 4-5 years, when they are already thoroughly accustomed to domestic conditions. In addition, it is necessary to understand that the regime of the day in the kindergarten is built taking into account the average norm for this or that age. Individual features of toddlers are almost not taken into account. To prevent such problems, experts recommend gradually moving children to a regime close to kindergarten, about a month. To switch to a new routine did not become stress for your child, you need to do it carefully, shifting everyday business for 10-15 minutes daily.

This advice can be attributed to nutrition. As practice shows, quite often the child does not want to go to kindergarten precisely because the food there seems to him tasteless, unusual. It is better to know in advance about what your baby will be fed in the kindergarten, and to introduce some dishes into his daily diet.

Most of the problems, as a rule, cause a "quiet hour". Again, this is best to work at home. It is necessary to accustom the child to the fact that after the morning games he needs a couple of hours to take a nap. In this case, do not lie with him in the same bed, and you should also exclude all unnecessary touches - it is unlikely that caregivers will each child in the group stroking the back. Many experienced moms advise putting the baby along with your favorite toy - a teddy bear or another, which you can then take with you to the kindergarten. In an unfamiliar setting, this native object will calm the crumb and help him fall asleep.

The child's arrival in kindergarten is always a test for him. Leaving a cozy home environment, he first contacts with the outside world, his peers and outsiders older people. Naturally, on this basis, the first conflicts arise, to which it should also be prepared. Very often children are capricious and try to do everything possible not to go to kindergarten when they do not get friends there. As a rule, children fall into already formed groups, where all the others know each other well. For some time your child, most likely, will not take in general games, they will not share with him, and so on. The situation is aggravated also in cases when the child does not speak as well as the others. Your job is to help him. For example, you can find out who he wants to be friends with, and try to bring the children together: tell them an idea for a joint game, etc. You can talk with other parents, arrange a walk together or go to, say, a circus. In such a situation, children will find a common language much faster.

It is worth knowing and something else. As a rule, both educators and other children treat with extreme disapproval those students who do not have elementary skills of self-service: they can not go to the pot, dress, eat. Best of all, if you teach your child to do all this - then unpleasant conflict situations with caregivers and ridicule on the part of peers will be much less or not at all.

It also happens that the child does not want to go to kindergarten because of the incorrect behavior of teachers. It's unlikely that the kid himself will tell you everything that happens to him during your absence. However, it's very simple to notice something wrong. If you hear from the child that the teacher is bad, he begins to be afraid of fairy-tale characters of a female - most likely, these thoughts have under themselves a background. This is a complex relationship with educators. You should go to the kindergarten and talk to them, find out what's wrong. In no case should one attack athletes with accusations and threats. Show that you are ready to cooperate and help them to find mutual understanding with your child. However, if the situation does not improve in a few weeks, it is worthwhile to think about changing the educational institution.

And a few more tips for those who want to prepare a child for kindergarten. First, you can not scare your child with a garden - otherwise, he can never become a safe and loved place for your child. Do not discuss the teachers and everything that surrounds the baby in the kindergarten, with him - it is likely he will have the impression that he was surrounded by evil, bad people. If your child cries whenever you leave, do not scold him and punish for it - it's better to gently remind you that you will return for him. But you can not lie to a kid: if you leave it for a whole day or even for half a day, you do not need to say that you will come very soon - so the little one will stop trusting you.

Stay calm and always talk about the kindergarten with a positive. Let this mood pass to the child. Only then can he feel comfortable there.