None of us like hypocrites. And while everyone considers himself a sincere and open person, surrounded only by two-faced people. Why is that? We often ask this question. It seems that you know the man from and to, you think that he is honest with you, he tells you everything he thinks, and, of course, he never discusses you with others. But here's a disappointment: and this "friend" showed himself as a two-faced Janus. We feel resentment over the whole white world and proudly declare that there are no more honest people left in the world. But why are we always ready to say that they are two-faced people, but not ourselves? It is necessary to approach this question from the point of view of psychology.
The reverse side of the coin is the unconscious
Psychologists distinguish two layers of the psyche: consciousness and the unconscious. So, only those ideas about ourselves reach the conscious part, which we like and which we accept in ourselves. But there are no impeccable people. Unfavorable characteristics are mercilessly suppressed and replaced. But they remain in us and are rooted in our unconscious. Sometimes these ideas break into the conscious stratum, forcing us to behave not in the most ideal way. This is how our "second face" manifests itself, which, of course, we do not recognize and try to justify ourselves, to find numerous explanations for our behavior. So it turns out that two-faced people are all around, but not us. Man is so used to showing the world only positive and approved his qualities, that he himself does not recognize his negative features. Many people from the childhood start to use successfully their duplicity in attitudes with associates, that, undoubtedly, brings to them big benefit (at work, in private life). Then the question arises: "Is it so bad to be duplicitous, if there are many advantages from this?"
Duplicity in our life
As many quotes about two-faced people say , a person becomes so used to his mask (which he shows to the world) that she becomes his face. It is very easy to cross that line when a person forgets his true self when he constantly adjusts to the situation, like a chameleon, and begins to pretend to himself. Such two-faced people, in fact, are deeply unhappy, although they demonstrate excellent mood to others and to themselves. The most vivid example of this can be seen in S. Maugham's work "The Theater". The fact that this problem is filled with nastiness is evidenced by the numerous statuses of two-faced people, constantly appearing in social networks. Modern society, thoroughly imbued with market relations, is extremely lacking in sincerity and directness. For example, you can read this status: "We pretend so long to others that we finally start pretending to ourselves." Truth and lies, hypocrisy and sincerity are too much intertwined with each other, and one can not distinguish one from another. You can mention one more quote: "When you are alone in your room, I'm afraid to open the door and not see anyone there." Duplicity, of course, allows you to get some benefit, but is the loss of your own "I" worth it?