Preliminaries or How to Be the Best Lover

"My young man seldom hugs me just like that, very rarely strokes my hair, holds my hand, he caresses me only when he wants to have sex! I am very upset! I noticed that if I refuse him for a while (under a specious A pretext or so it turns out by itself), he becomes VERY affectionate! But I know that after sex he will grow cold again.What to do? Quite stop dealing with him "this"? I absolutely no longer desire, and that's why! Him, that I need caress like air? "
Do you want to be desirable? Yes Yes Yes!!! Let's remember how a bonfire is bred. Light a match, bring it to a piece of paper, carefully put thin-thin chips, dry leaves on it ... What will happen to the fire if you pile a huge pile of leaves at once? Of course not. :) Will the bonfire burn if cold pieces of paper are placed on a burning piece of paper? No, the paper will burn, and the tree will remain untouched. In the fire throw as many leaves and chips as the fire can "eat". Gradually, slowly. As the fire increases, more and more are thrown at him. The analogy with the bonfire is very good for illustrating how sexual (and not only) relationships are out of bed. Pause, think about it.
Pause.
The fire extinguishes without firewood. The more the fire was, the more heated the ground beneath it, the more coals. The easier it is to rekindle a new one if the old one is out. Long, strong relationships - partner, sexual - are therefore reliable, because they are invested a lot. What obvious things I write! But if you consider this situation: a man approaches his woman and embraces her. He caresses her, although she has not noticed her for a whole week. He grabs her breasts, although he has not kissed for a week. He is surprised by her coldness! Interesting. None of the men together in that will not be surprised if a lit log does not ignite a thick log! But often he expects this from a woman.
To make love (sex) is not to have sexual intercourse. If, for someone, only the act is important, then do not be surprised that the stalls are cold in bed. Moments of emotional intimacy distinguish mechanical action from love. A man who restricts his love to acts solely by acts, steals himself. This applies to both sexes.
A man can kindle a passion in himself (I say more about emotional uplift, not about erection), getting pleasure from physical contact in itself. Outside the sexual intercourse. Perhaps I will not be mistaken if I say that most men act on the principle of "all or nothing": if you started IT, you need to finish it, meaning by "this" physical intercourse. "If there is no time to have sex, then why all these hugs, kisses ..."
But an experienced lover appreciates the moments of physical contact, receiving from him great pleasure. Together with this he foments a woman. Gradually. Step by step. Leisurely. He often touches her in situations unsuitable for making love. He does this inadvertently, accidentally during the day (or evening). Once again, take her hand. Once again correct hair. Gently embraces the waist, gently presses her to the subway. Standing behind the tickets to the cinema, he slowly presses to her from behind, but will not stay for long, just a few seconds! A few seconds of kissing. A few seconds of a closer look. A few seconds of hugs ... Hints. This is something that is not striking to an outsider's casual glance, but this is what distinguishes an attentive man. And most likely this is an excellent lover ...
How to explain a man's desires? How can I tell you what kind of preliminary caresses you need? Very simple. Open your mouth and start talking - this is often the most difficult! Unfortunately, we have the effect of "reading thoughts": if he likes, he will guess himself. Lovely women, how old are you waiting to wait for him to guess? A year, two, three, ten?
This is incredibly difficult. To say that something is wrong, about your desires ... But no one will do it for you. You know your loved one better than me. You know better than me at what point it is worth starting such a delicate topic. But let it be not immediately before or after making love. Let it be a neutral moment, far from the bed. Joint dinner or departure to nature (to the country, for mushrooms), but at least hike to the nearest kiosk. Let both of you be in a more or less good mood. And preferably on a sober head.
Your beloved man will be very pleased to please you! He certainly will not laugh and jump like the children do, expressing their emotions, but believe me, any loving person wants to do nice and good.