Middle age crisis in men

Women, whose husbands are over thirty, are more or less familiar with the notion of a middle-aged crisis. It does exist, no matter how we are persuaded that it is a whim and fabrication of those who are trying to justify the disintegration of the family. Men who have approached the period of the crisis become literally other people. They can do a strange thing, not wanting to explain their behavior. They pay much less attention to their wives, others can not understand their behavior, they do not find a serious explanation for the changes. The changes can be so shocking that the wife can say with certainty: "The husband will never be the same again - he seemed to have been replaced." Or spoiled, bewitched. In general, sometimes it seems that only such fantastic reasons can explain what is happening. To pour oil on the fire can and friends - they say, the relationship will never be the same as it was before. Unfortunately, we can not say with certainty that friends and neighbors are wrong. No one guarantees you that the husband will become tender and loving after the due date. However, we can not say that the family is no longer there and the relationship needs to be stopped. Despite the complexity of the situation, do not immediately think about divorce, too much to worry about. The crisis of middle age for a man should not destroy several years of his wife's life. Try to live as full as possible , to be interested in the life of your husband, and not to suffer and feel sorry for yourself. In a fairly large number of men, the crisis is very pronounced, but they overcome it, and largely thanks to their wives.

The crisis of the middle of life is a peculiar milestone when it is necessary to take stock of the past period and make a choice. Choose a new road, and what it should be, the man does not yet know, so his behavior is almost beyond logic. The crisis of middle age most often overtakes a man to 35-40 years, but in some cases it may be delayed and longer - manifest at the age of fifty. So, what results are most often visible to the unaided eye? For about twenty years a young guy decided to become a boss by the age of 25. Now he is almost forty, and career growth, if he was, then quite insignificant. In the family, once romantic relationships have long become more friendly. The trouble is that it is often objectively possible to say that these depressive moods are nothing more than an epiphany. However, the results are not quite the same, or even completely different than the woman wanted. The wife dreamed that her husband once realized that he was not too lucky in life - not that neighbor Petya. After such an awareness, the husband, according to his wife's ideas, must quickly get into the work to outdo the neighbor. But in fact my husband does not do anything, and even constantly gets angry.

The man internally panics - life is partly lived, but nothing significant could be achieved. The peculiarity of the crisis is that the previous achievements the man starts to consider insignificant, when the middle age crisis comes, it seems that everything he aspired to before - empty and unnecessary, that he lived quite differently than he did, and to start a new life late. Men under forty can begin to think that they devoted a lot of time to others, forgetting about themselves, so often they rush into the pool of new sensations and impressions. At the same time, they chaotically seek to change almost everything in the current life - work, environment, sometimes they try to leave the family. Sometimes it happens that the man is covered with depression. He is not interested in anything, he lives only with memories of the past and thoughts about how everything would turn out if dreams of his youth were fulfilled.

There are also men who almost imperceptibly and painlessly overcome the crisis of middle age. Psychology deals with the study of this period of life, and we can say with confidence that there are very few such people . First of all, these are those who are successful, busy with their favorite business, bringing in a good income. Those who perfectly realized their opportunities at work, who in the family have romantic and passionate relationships. In addition, the crisis can bypass this type of men who are not inclined to analyze their lives, who live only in the present. In other words, the crisis is not noticeable for those who are busy and who have no time to meditate - there is no time for it. These people have warm relations in the family, there is trust and mutual respect. Of course, one can not say that the rest do not have these qualities. Simply they are less, the rests of these most important components of love perish under the weight of everyday life and mutual insults.

A middle-aged crisis can manifest itself in different ways, but there is a common feature of all these signs - a man changes his usual life, while moving away from his wife.

The most undesirable sign is the appearance of a mistress. This is done to bring brightness into everyday life, novelty. The husband stays at the mirror longer than usual, tries to look younger. He can begin to take seriously his health, which can not be called a minus. A man does not cease to think about how his life would have taken shape, he once took another decision. This concerns the choice of profession, place of residence, wife. Your husband can become withdrawn if the catalyst for the crisis is some kind of difficult situation. The man turns over the long-planned family plans.

Theoretically, there are several points that need to follow a woman in this hardest period for her husband.

First of all - patience, but tune in to the fact that such a state of the husband can last for a year, and five years. Try to maintain it, while stopping outbursts of anger. Less threatening with divorce, express discontent, swear. At the same time, try not to do so that the time period occupied by the crisis of middle age with your husband does not fall out of your life. Do not focus on this problem, a man can even consider it a pity and even begin to revel in it.

... This will pass. In any case, patience and self-confidence to you, lovely women!