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Male character. The best qualities of a modern man

At the moment in the modern world there is a situation of acute shortage of real men. When observing different kinds of subcultures, the question arises: the masculine character - what is it? And they are tormented not only by women, but also by men. There is a crisis of self-identification of the male population. Thus, answering a specific question, we decided to consider different versions of the ideal man. After all, whatever one may say, the question of a truly masculine character leads a thinking person towards the ideal image of a stronger sex. To the article was not too boring, we decided to mix in a cool cocktail of movie heroes, literary characters and ordinary people.

Determination of character and its formation

Academic definitions of character are boring and incomprehensible to the unprepared reader, so we will try to answer the question about the character in its own way and as simply as possible, as far as possible.

Confucius said: "Sow the thought - reap an action, sow the action - reap a habit, sow the habit - reap character, sow the character - reap a fate."

Thus, character is a system of internal qualities of personality that determines the attitude of a person to himself, the world and other people.

How it is formed, psychology, of course, knows, but all this, rather, looks like a hypothesis. Why is this person, and not another, is still a mystery. But the general contour of psychologists can still draw. There are two main factors: upbringing and physiological individual characteristics. Proceeding from this, we can say that the male character is a balanced ratio of favorable external conditions and internal qualities. Example: parents instill in a child the habit of setting goals and achieving goals. It happens the other way round: a person develops an inner core in order to avoid the harmful influence of relatives and escape from their influence. In short, it happens in many ways, but when you are more than twenty-five, it's already shameful to complain about parents. If by this age a person has not become a person, then this is purely his problem. This is the topic of "character definition".

Proletarian

There are still on the Russian land those who do not sell cell phones, insurance, sausages and so on. It is possible and even more shortly: there are still those who do not trade. Such men are gradually dying out, as their habitat is lost. We are talking, of course, about people working in the specialties. Take for example a man working in a factory.

The reader will say: Is this an ideal, and where is the male character? Dear reader, have patience and imagine the life of a simple worker. He gets up every day, except the weekend, at 6:30 am and so on for 30 or 60 years (usually the plant comes pretty early). A certain courage is needed here to live this day after day.

The weak and strong sides of the proletariat as a type

Secular lionesses and other girls with a claim it is difficult to believe that this type of man can attract. And yet it is so. You can even say that this image of a man has a strong character.

Advantages. The man in this case conquers women with its simplicity, lack of delicacies. If the proletariat does not have serious personal flaws, it can even by income refer to the middle class.

The trouble is that in any case, the person is oppressed by routine in work and the absence of a higher meaning in it.

If the proletarian is a person not inclined to bad habits, he will work for the benefit of the family and children. True, for this it is necessary that a woman get to him sensitive and understanding.

Disadvantages. Here it should be said that the severity of physical work presupposes certain types of rest, which do not promise a person practicing them anything good. For example, you can recall the model of the life of a colleague on the laundry of such a literary hero as Martin Eden.

Manager - the hero of our time

It is difficult to say whether the collective image of the manager has a male character. But given that now managers at us almost everything, that, probably, is. Imagine that the store manager came to him originally as a cleaner, and then, thanks to a chain of accidents, became a director.

Although, probably, in Russian realities it's hard to imagine such a scenario. Incidentally, on the chain of well-organized contingencies, the plot of the film "The Secret of My Success" with Michael J. Fox in the title role was constructed.

The manager is an enviable groom?

Advantages. If we imagine that there is still such a person in Russia (although this is implausible), his undoubted strengths will be that he rose from the very bottom and knows the value of money. He achieved everything himself. About the imaginary hero of our time, we can definitely say that he has a strong character. Almost any life achievement is based on the strength of the spirit. In such cases, people say that a person has a core.

Negative qualities . It's hard to say here, the manager does not assume any specific professional deformations. It all depends on the person. We rise further along the social ladder.

The businessman of average hand

For example, the owner of a construction company in a provincial town, not necessarily small. In general, in fact, the company can be any, even for the production of downy shawls. The main thing is not this. This type determines a relatively high income and a sense of self-worth. He is not used to the limitations of his own desires. If someone asks: is the man's character about him? Of course, in order to organize your business in Russia, you must have not only the strength of spirit, but also courage.

Profession greatly affects a businessman in family life?

It's hard to say, everything is individual. Everything depends on the moral content of each individual person. The difficulty is that business can be rooted in the individual, and maybe just a job that a person does well. Therefore, variations are possible. When a person is good family oriented, then he will be an exemplary husband. If his family is of little interest and he has concluded an alliance for the sake of everyday amenities, then such a man will treat his wife as an interior subject. Children in this case will be perceived as something that "should be", but they, as a rule, are entirely the wife's concern.

Do not think that this is hell. Some women not only put up with this situation, but also yearn for it passionately. They are ready to exchange their freedom, not even for everyday comfort, but for some social and existential guarantees, not knowing that they really are not. Nobody can promise anything one hundred percent.

Millionaire

Finally we got to the icon of most modern women. And the disadvantages of even looking for somehow uncomfortable. Because the millionaire, from the point of view of most women, is "woven from some solid virtues", as the hero of the famous film by E. Ryazanov. But our task is an analyst, therefore, we will digress from these conventions and boldly rush to search for the deficiencies of the rich man.

Of course, in the opinion of women, he is a strong man. Proof of his power is precisely the means that he was able to earn.

At a time when much is valued in money, people are ready to worship someone who has been able to tame them.

Disadvantages of a millionaire as a type

It's embarrassing, but you still have to break this bright image.

Firstly, the wife of a millionaire is a thing and an instrument, not a person.

Secondly, a woman who came out for a rich man does not belong to herself. She is not free.

Thirdly, full non-state provision can turn into one not very pleasant moment a complete collapse and perfect poverty. Millionaires have good lawyers, and therefore, well-thought-out marriage contracts.

This is the reverse side of the image called "strong man" - a millionaire model.

Superheroes are an ideal?

Why does Batman or Spider-Man cause such enthusiasm for women? This is not difficult to explain. Superheroes - this is the embodiment of a woman's dream. On the one hand, Bruce Wayne is a millionaire, and on the other hand, he has a sense of justice. He is a fighter with crime and a dark knight of Gotham. In a word, a handsome man. By the way, B. Wayne is also therefore a dream that he is one of the few human, philanthropic rich people. Even somehow it's embarrassing to ask: does he have the character of a man? Of course! Still would! Testosterone is just off scale.

"Spider" - much more modest character. He's just a niggling photographer. Not as classy as Bruce Wayne, but still he's cute.

In both characters, the main thing is that they are heroes. In every woman there lives a little girl, and she dreams of a prince. Batman in this sense is more stylish option than the classic son of the king, and horses are not in vogue now, another thing is the batmobile.

Married to a superhero. Can this be imagined?

I remember an old joke: "An ideal husband is a deaf and deaf mute captain of a long voyage." And the truth, the fighter with evil is not much different from such a sailor. Therefore, comic book characters have only girlfriends, but no wives. And then they would get fat and get out of the form, and we would have to retire, but who needs it?

No, the heroes must remain alone. This adds to their image of romanticism. In addition, they are always young, sexually active and gentlemen. If the "spider" or Batman is not a gentleman, then he is already a villain. This is such a sad life for superheroes - only within the framework of good always and everywhere. By the way, it does not matter, an evil or kind person (or a hero), but the character of a man does not suffer from this. Guys can be any.

Real and imaginary writers

Real writers, as a rule, are boring and always write, in fact, hence their name. Therefore, it is not interesting to talk about them. We will talk more about those writers who are familiar to readers and viewers: about the Master from MA Bulgakov's main novel and about the rebellious writer Hanke Moody.

The master is the dream of all romantic girls. He is intelligent, handsome, talented. This is his best character qualities. However, at the same time, he does not possess a penetrating force, vulnerable, painful. In other words, the Master is such a generalized ideal not of a man, but of a creative person in general. The master is in a way very feminine. But girls who are not interested in money, but want a clean and great love, it is very suitable.

It is noteworthy that the Master and Margarita could not be together on the ground, but only at rest (we deliberately did not say "in heaven", because it is not entirely clear where the pair is in the final of the novel). And this is absolutely true. If we continue this love line on earth, at best Margarita and the Master would have been lovers all their lives, and at worst the Master would have disappeared in a madhouse, and she committed suicide.

If you mentally cut off the journey of the pair with Woland, then so it eventually came out. Everything ended well. Everybody died. And those who did not die, they went mad.

It is known that the prototype of Hank was Charles Bukowski. I must say that Hank is a relaxed and "strongly brushed" image of the founder of "dirty realism." What to do, Hollywood is weak with a weakness for beautiful pictures. In fact, if Bukovsky were offered a radical choice between alcohol and women, he would have stayed with the first. The good of reality did not offer such a choice, and he interfered with two substances among themselves in unlimited quantities.

If one of the ladies reading this will say that no, Hank does not interest us at all, they deceive us or ourselves, because the ratings of the series do not lie. And it definitely looks not only men.

Hank likes women, because the writer offered to the viewer is a brutal image (his character, I must say, so-so) of a real bad boy. Let's be honest, scoundrels always liked women more than good guys. S. Dovlatov also wrote in the Compromise: "Here I am good, and who do I need?" The classic question of all the wonderful guys.

Hank hypnotizes women, because he is pure testosterone (even more than Batman). He embodies the old dream of every girl about a bad, but charming romance.

By the way, and if we draw a parallel between two imaginary images of writers, the result is this: if the Master were born in our time, he could easily turn into Hank. That's so the 21st century is worse than the 20th.

The Godfather as the ideal family man. "A woman can be carefree, a man - never"

It's clear that all the previous movie heroes and literary characters would be bad husbands, but not the Godfather - Don Vito Corleone. Of course, provided that we give up on his professional activities and the specifics associated with it.

Michael's father is in some ways the ideal head of the family.

  1. Clever. Witty.
  2. Always defends his family.
  3. Not fond of women, alcohol and gambling. In other words, without bad habits.
  4. Despite his leading role in the family, he loves his wife, the mother of his children, with awe.
  5. He loves (maybe even excessively) his children.

Even from this superficial analysis of Don Corleone's image, it is evident that positive male character traits predominate in him. And the phrase from the second part of the film trilogy, when Vito goes with a friend to the theater, where the girlfriend of the latter is playing, and he asks the future Godfather: "Vito, is it really beautiful?" - "For you maybe, for me there are only mine wife and kids".

Whatever woman wants to hear such words in her address? One trouble: not all will reconcile with the moral image of Don Vito. The character and personality of the head of the mafia would have been simply gorgeous if he had not drowned his hands in the blood.

Parade of Ideals

The image created jointly by Marlon Brando, Francis Ford Coppola and Mario Puzo, crowns our article. The result is a little sad, namely: we came to the fact that we have representatives of certain social groups (the proletarian, manager, businessman, millionaire) who are only considered to be ideals because of a misunderstanding, because "everyone has his own shortcomings", and movie heroes, only One of which is suitable in general for marriage.

If we ask ourselves what qualities a modern man should have, the answer will be ambiguous. The representative of the male today is endowed with such features:

  1. Workable.
  2. Beautiful.
  3. Well-groomed.
  4. Decently earns.
  5. Loves women.
  6. Strives for a lasting relationship.
  7. Collectivist according to corporate ethics and individualist in spirit. Ideally, these qualities should somehow merge, forming a harmonious unity.
  8. He does not drink much (for a country consuming 15 liters of alcohol per capita per year, this is an important parameter).

In principle, any of the types presented here (meaning only real "samples") can aim at the ideal of a modern man who embodies the best masculine qualities. Male character, respectively, in terms of current views should be like that.

All of us are smiths of our own image

It is clear that a real man can only become with the right, suitable woman nearby. If a girl meets her boyfriend every evening with a stream of endless claims, one can hardly expect that he will become an ideal of a male. Although, perhaps, some such motivation motivates. In other words, in reality, the nature is different, each has its own. But we all have the strength to become a little better.

The main thing that should be understood: any person is not hopeless (except, perhaps, a drug addict and the last alcoholic), a skilled master can create a work of art even from bad material.

So a woman should not wait for the ideal of a modern man to come into her hands, but she can always create it from what was, for princes (as well as perfections) are few and do not have enough for all.

Appearance of a man who fell into her hands, you can change, it can be motivated to extract money. Of course, not a frying pan, but only caress and good attitude. When a piece of stone gets to the sculptor, he first of all evaluates the quality of the material, its prospects. So a woman, looking at a man, should see not what he is, but how he can become. We will not hide the ability to see the true human essence - this is a great art, and it needs to learn more than one year.

If we sum up, we wanted to not only talk about the best masculine qualities, but also to amuse and entertain the reader a little. We do not know if we have succeeded in this matter, but we want to believe that yes. In any case, our character classification did not have a scientific character, but nevertheless it had the distinctive features of some types of men. And this should be useful for the reader.

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