Is flattery a blessing or a destructive lie?

Any meaning of the word "flattery" is familiar. Everyone uses this technique every day, sometimes we say pleasant words, though not entirely truthful, so as not to offend the person, otherwise we want to please and impress, and it happens that these words become the main weapon in the hands of a swindler and a scoundrel.

Meeting old acquaintances, rather we will make a compliment, than we will focus on the minuses of appearance or other negative characteristics. Unfortunately, flattery is the norm of modern communication. If, in this situation, begin to show your opinion and reproach for shortcomings, they will think of you, to put it mildly, as a hamovatom man. It turns out that the society itself imposes standards of "ethical" communication on us and makes us lie and satisfy the opponent's pride.

Another case, if a person flatter in order to please and arrange to yourself. This can happen because of fear of being rejected or in order to quickly fit into someone else's environment. More often this method does not work, because insincerity is visible. Weakness of character or selfish goals make flattery the most important weapon of many people. If you do not fight this habit, then a liar can not soon be natural and truthful. Flattery is a swamp that pulls into the pool. The more often a person uses these dirty Tricks, the more he forgets about pure relations and believes less in himself. Each of us met on our way those who obediently listened to the speeches, and then "chanted" them ode. Some feel sorry for such people, others irritate them, while others attract them to themselves and enjoy themselves, sharing their vanity.

The world remembers such famous heroes and people as Sonya Gold Pen and Ostap Bender. They amaze everyone with their ability to deceive and flatter. Not one man caught the sweet speeches of swindler Sonya, but at the same time she is still a legend and has her fans. In her mouth flattery became the good and art of eloquence. For her fraud and deception were the meaning of life and the only craft. If her gift was used for good! One can only imagine how many good and great deeds she would have accomplished.

Connected with such a notion as flattery, quotations have passed for many centuries from mouth to mouth, because people consider it a sin, for which it is worth asking God's forgiveness . But still from it you can not hide. Secular events, business meetings are built on flattering and "smiling" communication.

Flattery is evil, whatever motivates people to resort to it, we keep the answer just in front of us. Everyone's business is to be an honest and strong person or a sneer. It is not necessary to speak offensive words, you can just keep silent or emphasize the real pluses. It seems that it is better not to open your mouth at all, than to be a liar who searches for words in order to put a person to him. Everyone should strive for excellence - be strong, truthful, honest and kind. Our life should not pass in the pursuit of good, but in the pursuit of the good of the soul. If a person says untruth and does it regularly, then it is worth thinking about his spiritual development. Life is short. From it we go "naked", and only the memory of us remains on earth. Everyone chooses his own way every day and every hour, and let the road be bright and clean, not built on lies. Flattery is a vice with which you have to fight.