How should one ask forgiveness to restore a relationship?

We all know how difficult it is to ask forgiveness from the people closest and loved by us. Anyone can forget any debt, but not to those who are dear to us. Anyone can easily say this magical word - "forgive", but not to the one who expects it from us the most. What are the ways to apologize without making great efforts, as well as without prejudice to one's self-esteem?

If trifling disagreements arise between people, then they prefer to ask forgiveness in a theatrical way, that is: to wring their hands, tearfully beg, and even beat their heads against the wall. This prayer for forgiveness makes the other side laugh and restore relationships.

It is very easy to overcome the gap in the relationship, if bribed offended. In this case, there is no question of giving a bribe in a sealed envelope. We are talking about the way to ask for forgiveness, doing some kind of pleasant actions for the frustrated person. For example, show more attention, cares, buy a gift, make concessions.

A gift in difficult situations plays a very important role, so do not even take into account if a person angry with you angrily rejects it. It's nothing, because at a subconscious level, such repentance has already been taken, but pride does not allow us to demonstrate reconciliation. A little patience, and a delectable gift will break the resistance and be accepted with gratitude.

A very good way to ask for forgiveness is in a letter or in an SMS. He is much more effective than oral explanations, in which the prepared words are lost, and the voice betrays or sounds unconvincing. But the received letter will be read more than once, of course, if it is not torn when received. For a written expression of regret about what happened, there must necessarily be an oral explanation that will convince a person that you wrote a letter from the heart.

In any case, the conflict is best resolved by talking to a sick subject. Such a conversation (in a calm and consistent tone) should put an end to the dispute, resolve the claims that have offended the other person. All arguments should be clearly and clearly stated. At the same time, you can not ask for forgiveness without listening to the arguments of the party arguing with you. If you do not find understanding, then even leaving the problem unsolved, explain directly that you do not agree with the opponent's opinion, so leave the question open. To agree with an unacceptable opinion of the vis-a-vis for the sake of resolving the conflict means to lay the foundation for new disagreements.

The most effective way to ask forgiveness is known from early childhood, when we simply approached the parents who were offended by us and said: "Forgive me." Having said this word, you just let know that you are aware of your mistakes. Of course, you will have to listen to reproaches and, probably, many of them will be fair, and, therefore, it will not be superfluous to make it clear that you are aware of the depth of your guilt and are ready to "redeem" it.

If you belong to that category of people who can not forgive forgiveness at all, then your situation is not easy, because you experience everything in yourself and receive double punishment. Simpler to those who, without delving into the problem, can apologize even a hundred times to the series.

So, we ask forgiveness correctly!