I love a married man ... What if you love a married man?

In society, it is considered mistresses to be negative characters. People call them predators, razluchnitsami, destroyers of families and so on. That's why a woman sometimes finds it so hard to admit to herself: "I love a married man ..." What to do in this difficult situation? Unfortunately, there is no universal solution to the problem.

Why is this happening?

In fact, much more often than we think, women come to mind the phrase: "I love a married man." What to do in this situation? To begin with it is necessary to understand why this happens. The answer is simple to indecency. The fact is that sooner or later the moment comes when more or less worthy men are already "ringed". In addition, if it is a question of true love, then no stamp in the passport will not become an obstacle. Do not also forget that some unscrupulous husbands carefully hide their marital status, wanting to take hold of the heart of a hot beauty. In any case, this situation is equally difficult for all members of the love triangle.

The Forbidden fruit is sweet. A foreign man often provokes more interest than one who is absolutely free from family relations. The weaker sex also has a hunting instinct. In addition, another factor plays a significant role: if someone chose this person to create a family, then it is definitely good (at least, it may seem at first glance). Thus, some ladies prefer to stay on a proven option than to rush headlong into the unknown.

Why does a man need a mistress?

What if you love a married man? First you need to understand why this relationship is for a man. According to statistics, about 80% of married men have relations on the side. And many consider this situation to be completely normal, justifying that males are polygamous in nature. In fact, the reasons are much simpler and trivial, namely:

• Monotonous family life and routine compel a man to go in search of adventure with a new woman;
• Often after marriage, women absolutely cease to watch for themselves, and therefore husbands simply can not resist if they see a well-groomed beauty nearby;
• Some men like the feeling that in their submission there are just two women (and maybe more);
• Feeling tension and some discord in family relationships, a man can resort to searching for a "spare airfield", where he will always be waiting;

• Marriages are not always concluded for love (besides, this feeling may eventually pass), and therefore, having cooled to his wife, a person can go in search of a new passion;
• Having learned about the betrayal of the spouse, a man can take revenge on her by resorting to relations on the side;
• Sometimes a relationship with a mistress is just a way to diversify your intimate life.

How to proceed?

So, you dared to admit to yourself: "I love a married man." What to do in this case, so as not to harm anyone? To begin with, you must clearly realize that according to statistics, only 5-10% of unfaithful husbands decide to leave the family nest and immerse themselves in a new relationship. Based on this, you can choose for yourself one of the following strategies of behavior:

• Enjoy the moment (since you can not build a family with this person, take everything you can from him: love, gifts, etc.);
• Fight for your happiness (since a man decided on a relationship, then you have a small chance of their continuation);
• Find the courage to break your relationship (if you value your reputation and honor, better leave a married man, because in the eyes of society you will sooner or later become a real monster);
• Treat similar things like (if you learned that the object of your passion has long and happily married, try as soon as possible to switch to a new relationship with a man not burdened with family obligations).

It should be understood that this is a kind of problem, if you confessed to yourself: "I love a married man." Tips and advice from outsiders are unlikely to help resolve the situation. It is necessary first of all to understand yourself and your feelings.

Positive moments

What to do with a married man? Once you decide to enter into such a relationship, try to enjoy the benefits. Thus, the status of a lover gives the following positive points:

• You are not obliged to serve a lover (cook him, wash and iron things), and all the time between meetings at your full disposal;
• You do not have any obligations to this man (if you like someone else, you can switch to a new "love" without a twinge of conscience);
• Relationship with a married man is a sea of adrenaline and thrill;
• The fact that a man preferred you to his wife, inspires a sense of superiority and amusement;

• If your chosen one is wealthy, it is quite possible that he will take up most of the costs of your maintenance;
• Often men do not save on mistresses (they give them much more expensive and valuable gifts than legal wives).

Negative moments

What if you love a married man? There is no universal answer to the question. If you hesitate between feelings and conscience, perhaps the negative factors of such a relationship will help you make a decision. So, it is worth noting the following:

• You can not appear together in society (only at first the meetings are slyly presented with passion and intrigue, and later they get bored and even become humiliating);
• You risk acquiring an irreconcilable and insidious enemy in the person of your lover's wife;
• All the evenings, weekends and holidays you are most likely to spend alone;
• The status of a mistress in the eyes of society is very humiliating, and therefore you will feel atrocious (and if relationships become known to everyone, then they will point at you with a finger).

The Boomerang Principle

Women do not always with due responsibility refer to the recognition: "I love a married man." What to do in this situation? Imagine yourself in the place of his wife. It is possible that she does not suspect anything. What if she knows everything? It is possible that she suffers from the realization that her husband has a mistress. Maybe she is silent because of the children or her own indecision. Or maybe you are the cause of constant family quarrels and scandals.

You can fantasize endlessly on this topic, but it's always worth remembering the boomerang principle. How would you feel when you learned that your spouse has another woman?

I love a married man ... What should I do? How to forget?

There is such a category of women who will go over their heads and step over everyone to achieve their own. If you do not treat them, then you will certainly begin to strain the status of a mistress. To forget about a married man, follow these recommendations:

• As soon as possible, stop the relationship and any contact with this person. You do not need any last appointments and fleeting encounters. The faster you cut this knot, the easier it will be to regain composure.
• Destroy everything that reminds you of these relationships. Delete phone numbers and correspondence, get rid of gifts (if things are valuable, they can be sold).
• Do not start a new relationship with the first counter. Wait until the old feelings completely cool down, and find someone who will really be worthy of you.
• Try to get distracted and change the situation, find a new hobby, make interesting acquaintances. For example, you can go on a trip. In a word, you need to do everything that will save you from thinking about unhappy love.

And if this is fate?

A difficult and responsible step is a relationship with a married man. Is it worth it to meet with him? If this is the love of your life, then perhaps it's worth taking a chance. Perhaps, and you for him will become that faithful companion, about which everyone dreams. It is possible that the wife of your lover also has relations on the side. Thus, the divorce will not be a tragedy, but the beginning of a new happy life for all the characters. Could such a scenario? Of course! The statement that marriages are made in heaven is not always true. Perhaps his first legitimate relationship is nothing more than a mistake of youth. Someone marries against parents, someone under pressure, someone is stupid, and someone because of children. In any case, if a man is unhappy in a marriage, then with or without your help, he will still leave the family. The main thing is to correctly unravel his intentions.

Specialist help

So, you are increasingly telling yourself: "I love a married man." What to do? The advice of a psychologist in this case will be very welcome. You have to share your problems, otherwise you can simply wallow in them. If you do not have a reliable friend with whom you could talk heart to heart, it is worth contacting a specialist. The psychologist will ask you to answer the following questions:

• Even if by your love you save a man from a domestic routine and an unloved (perhaps, incorrect) spouse, you still put yourself in an extremely humiliating position. Think, are you ready for this man to descend in the eyes of others?
• Surrendering entirely into the hands of an unfaithful family man, you lose valuable time that could be spent on the creation of your own family. Should I punish myself this way?
• If a man has children, then surely they will be the first to suffer after the father leaves the family. Remember your childhood and your family. Will not you be ashamed?
• Quite often, men fall apart in promises to divorce their wives and create a new happy family with their mistress. But why has not he done so yet?

You should give an answer not to the psychologist, but to yourself. If you are honest with yourself, you can make the right decision.

conclusions

No matter how women are driven from such thoughts, many admit to themselves: "I love a married man." What to do in a difficult situation, the psychologist will prompt, and also your own conscience. Before starting such a relationship, you need to analyze the situation very well. Of course, there is a small chance that you will have the love of your life, but in most cases everything is limited to the humiliating status of a mistress.