What to talk with a guy? About him, about himself, about life

While reading women's magazines, many people get the impression that men are aliens who need to be treated with caution. And it is necessary to start preparing the topics for the year before the meeting, as if you pass the exam in a foreign language. Everything is much simpler - men are also people, and therefore the usual rules of communication are universal. What to talk with a guy, when you really want to like him? In this article you will find general tips, and some specificity of communication with men (Yes, it is, but not to the extent that women's magazines present).

First, you need to make communication with you comfortable for the guy. What to talk with a guy, that he was good in your society? Will it or not - will depend on your emotional sensitivity. Carefully observe his reaction to the discussion of the topic. It's not even the topic that matters, but how interesting it is to him. The first topic is better to choose, focusing on that information about the guy that you already have. For example, you see that he is strong and muscular. This can be asked about protein shakes. Tell me that you want to make the hips more embossed and ask them to show successful exercises. But if the guy is a "nerd", then it's better to ask him about the best novelties of the book industry. Say that you do not have enough time for everything, so it's good to know the expert's opinion (that is, his opinion). Everyone likes to feel authoritative, so a man will be comfortable next to you.

Secondly, try to play stereotypes about the woman. What to talk with the guy on the first date, to seem feminine? On topics of cooking and home economics. Just do not lie: if you did not cook cherry cake, then it's better not to invent, even if he said that he was delighted with cherries in any form. Just admit that while you are inexperienced. And add that it is the men who get the best cooks. Ask him a question, why it happens. You will learn a lot about how he treats women in general. If he starts to say that men are in principle the best professionals, then he is most likely a sexist and macho. And if he does not agree and begins to prove by examples, then ... either he thinks independently, or likes to argue with the girl. Or maybe both. And you listen - and draw conclusions.

Thirdly, at the first meeting, it is necessary to designate the boundaries. What to talk with a guy so that he treats you with respect? It's not the choice of the topic that matters, but your independence, at least in words. This means that you need to let him know that you do not acknowledge pejorative relations, do not like motherfathers and you do not like pressure (if these points are important to you). It is best to touch on the example of allegedly existing friends. For example, you are talking about a friend who forgave a guy for treason. And then you say that you would immediately put out of your life a trader. He will draw conclusions and, at least, with treason will be well encrypted. That is, by examples you can tell the guy important principles for you. You can, for example, say that your mother did not agree to leave the university for the sake of the pope. And this is normal in your opinion. (The real story in this situation is important, the main thing is to observe his reaction).

Fourth, you must always keep intrigue. What to talk with a guy so that he remains interested in you for a long time? Just do not just say everything about yourself, leave the topic for later, tell him what you will talk about on the next date, and do not give in to the temptation to immediately discuss the stated topic. Let him wait, think - and he will be interested to meet again.

What to communicate with a guy? It is better to clearly understand what you should not talk about. At least not more than 1 minute. Yes, about diets, wardrobes and serials. There are girlfriends for these topics. Around you is a big bright world. So try to learn new things about him and share with the boy discoveries. He will appreciate it.