How to forget a person ...

Love ... A feeling that everyone has with his power. But the symptoms of dependence are similar in all: the heartbeat at the sight of the object becomes faster, it can catch your breath, the trembling in your fingers and in the whole body starts, the sweat comes out of excitement and even the temperature suddenly increases. All signs of the disease are evident. Ways of transmission: eye contact, fluids, charisma. Treatment is not required if the object of adoration is infected with the same virus.

Sorry for the humor. But in fact a person experiences inexplicable bliss while in love. Of course, if this feeling is mutual. The whole world fades as soon as we see a loved one. And at that moment we understand that we do not need more.

But it can also happen that the whole world will fade when the relationship suddenly stops. Before yesterday, still happy to forgetless, there suddenly becomes a question that does not lend itself to logic: "How to forget a person?" And it does not matter what will cause that. How to forget a loved one with whom so much connects? How to erase memories and images? How to forget his first, such a timid declaration of love? Days and nights spent together, plans for the future, such beautiful dreams ... Everything suddenly collapses and it seems that it makes no sense to live on. Without him. Is it possible to forget a loved one?

The answer is disappointing: no. It will stay with you. The pain will cease only with time. Do not think about how to forget your loved one. The search for ways will not yield results. Just try to live on. There is a film in which a son, suffering from love and having lost all hope, also tormented by the question of how to forget a person. He asks his father: "What should I do now?" Do you know what answer father gave his son? The only correct one: "Suffer!"

How to forget a person without experiencing pain, confusion of feelings, inexpressible longing and heartache? It's impossible.

It also happens that suffering passes beyond a certain line, when a person begins to suffer, already experiencing pleasure from their own torment. This is a kind of masochism. A person closes on his own tearing torments of love, reveling in them, not noticing anyone, poisoning the existence of not only his own, but also his loved ones. As a result, the protracted neurosis becomes the cause of other, already physical diseases: headaches, fainting, ulcers, increasing or lowering the pressure ... Enumerate for infinity long. No wonder they say that the cause of all diseases is nerves. The statement is not devoid of common sense. Many psychologists agree: love can be equated with such serious diseases as drug addiction and alcoholism. Even the ancient healers treated love with anxiety. Avicenna, who was the founder of Arab medicine, stated the following: "Love is a disease." Signs: melancholy, eyes dry, tumble, interrupted and recurring breath, hearing poems about love, he cries and grieves, there is no order in behavior, the pulse is disorderly and uneven, like At the grief of the dejected ... "

I can not tell you how to forget a loved one, because a truly loved one can not forget. But to muffle the pain, returning to life, it is still possible. And here you have to dig in the depths of the soul, honestly putting everything on the shelves. After all, love can be masked for other feelings. This is a sense of ownership (unsatisfied), and affected self-esteem, and the fear of remaining alone, and even too low self-esteem. And only when you learn to recognize these feelings, separating them from true love, will you make the first step on the way to return. "Of a hundred petals you will get only a drop of oil, out of a hundred torments - only a drop of wisdom." How true this proverb!

Try to take a piece of paper and write on it the story of your love. And in the end, as a conclusion, add the phrase: "it was." Burn this text, which is now a bridge between the past and the present.

Self-interest and self-examination you have enjoyed enough already. Now it's time to "lick" the wounds. Do not stay long in bed. Start the morning active. Let it be a morning run or a walk with a dog. All of your choice and your capabilities. Start to visit gyms, swimming pool. Decorate the world with yourself, make others look at you with admiration or even with envy. Visit the hairdresser, do a manicure, go shopping. It's time to change the image. Stop long conversations with friends and relatives on a tormenting topic. Immerse yourself in your head to study, work. Plan your life in such a way as to limit the intersections with the former lover. It was the former. Affirm for yourself this status. Remember the famous words: "The ways of the Lord are inscrutable." Who knows, perhaps so strong feelings today were only a prelude, a kind of rehearsal, a precursor to a new, stronger and more sincere love?

Look at yourself from the other side. From the very one with which strangers see you. Believe me, this is a miserable sight. Do not let others feel sorry for themselves, because pity will quickly dry up and change into indifference. A wretched person can not be strong. Accustom yourself to the idea that the tragedy we are experiencing today is a vaccine that will give immunity from failures and disappointments for many years, will not allow us to suffer again the question of how to forget a person ...

And a few words in the end ... Literature, as you know, has extraordinary strength. Read when you have free time. Avoid one-day heartbreaking "butterflies", written by order of publishers. Such romances and stories are written in the calculation of a sensitive audience who is experiencing or has just experienced a tragedy. Discard such literature at once. Do not let cheap authors make money on your feelings and raise your rating on you. Although ... There is one wonderful work about the feelings of undivided, which I highly recommend to read: the poem "Moscow - Petushki" (Erofeev). This work really helps you to look at yourself from the other side and make a reassessment of what is happening.