Executioner, victim and witness: insulting incriminations, leaving wounds

Almost everyone heard nasty things in his address. Sometimes we learn about this quite by accident, since most of the insulting calls speak behind your back, but there are also those for whom it is not difficult to say everything in person and at the same time make a sweet smile.

First, let's try to understand what motivates people to insult others ...

6 reasons for mucks

1. Bad manners or tactlessness. Such people consider this shortcoming to be their dignity. Without even realizing it, they can blurt insulting accusations even in the presence of older people. Do not take it to heart, they hardly understand the tactlessness of their words.

2. Envy. And it can manifest itself even to the smallest things. For example, your good mood, and even about material prosperity and personal life is better to remain silent.

3. People-vampires. Unfortunately, there are people who take pleasure and energy from what they said in a strange address offensive names.

4. The desire for teaching. Such a desire arises in "savvy psychologists" who consider themselves mentors. They give advice, but do not forget to humiliate or offend the feelings of the interlocutor.

5. Good intentions. Sometimes the most insulting calls we hear from close people. We understand that they love us, but in a fit of anger not everyone can control their words.

6. Impunity. This excuse for nastiness is more often found on the Internet, where people feel safe and do not stint on insults. But if in virtual life they can be entered into the Black List, then in real life everything is much more complicated.

Where are the roots from?

It's not a secret for anyone that the most cruel people are children, and we get the first offensive names on names from the school's bench. Sometimes the imagination of classmates can go so far as to allow the nickname or nickname to become a stigma, after which people even forget the real name of the person. The fact is that children never think about what the consequences of teasers might be. For them, it is most important to create fun and noise by humiliating other people.

The main reason for callousness is appearance. If a person has a problem skin, they will call him pimply, vision problems - blind chicken, ochkarik, pursuit of learning - botan. The most offensive names for boys are about his mother's honor. If the word "mother" appears in the insult, the child will tear and throw everything that surrounds it.

They tease everyone, but why do some of them stop calling names, and continue to scoff at others? The fact is that any normal person with special trepidation refers to his name, and any offensive scandal concerning the most sacred, cause a storm of emotions. This is what teasers need. To prevent this from happening to your child, you need to explain to him that the best weapon is ignoring.

Words leaving wounds

The theme of the appeals is so tremulous that even after years it leaves an unpleasant residue on your mind. And not in vain in the beginning it was said about children. If adults can at least sometimes control their emotions, then the children do not.

How often do teenagers fight? The key phrase is hidden in the question itself. Every day, young men from about 12 to 20 years old try to prove their authority through fights. Where does the scuffle begin? Of course, the first thing is an insulting call for a guy who will humiliate his feelings.

Teasers or nicknames are like masks, which are slipped to people to be put on. More often they are forced to accept such a "reward" to get into some influential company, or to protect their honor.

Insulting words for the guys there are many, but the most offensive, when it comes to the word "gay". If in the countries of Europe such people are treated well, then the Russian people are negative.

What annoys guys

Men are less emotional than girls. For example, for a girl, the phrase "You're a fool" sounds like the most horrible insult, followed by cries, tears, scandals and hysterics. With men, things are much simpler. He will not even pay attention to this. But this does not mean that not a single phrase that has flown from the lips of a woman can not grieve or anger him.

The following topics may become a ground for offense:

- uncleanliness (stink);

- Discontent over his "friend" (small dignity);

- insults about his hobbies.

How to deal with insults

As it was said before, the best way of revenge is ignoring. It is necessary to explain to the child from childhood that if it is called, do not respond and pay attention to it. The teasers are interested in offending those who are indignant and respond. The child should know that all the nicknames, chasing and other words to him are irrelevant. The council is simple though it works 100%. But in order for your child to properly use it, cultivate in him a sense of dignity.

Words sting will hurt like a bee

These photos will not leave anyone indifferent. The purpose of the photo shoot is to get people to think about what people feel that have been insulted. If you think that offensive words are not capable of leaving wounds on the body, remember, they are the most sick and remain in the shower.

The idea of the project came to the head of the photographer Richard Johnson. Each participant of the photo session chose a word from the list, which in his opinion is considered an unfair insult.

Now imagine what would happen if the insult left a mark on the body?

Moron - "idiot", "idiot".

Useless - "useless" or "useless", stupid - "fool", "dumbass".

I want to believe that after watching the photos on "Choosing a weapon" people will think about before they start using verbal violence against others.