Child's love for parents

Love, as a cordial attachment, occurs throughout life to different people. But it is believed that there is nothing stronger than a mother's feelings for her baby. This is not true. There is a more infallible - the love of a child. Trustful adoration and faith in the perfection of parents represented by the demigods, who warm, feed, help overcome difficulties. How is this feeling formed, and what transformations are affected throughout life?

Mother in the life of a child

A woman wakes up her mother's instinct immediately after the birth of the baby. But father's love is formed gradually. It becomes the strongest when it becomes possible to transfer skills, to teach something. Mother from an early age spends more time with the baby, nourishes it, takes care and caress. Therefore, from the first days the child's love for the mother grows out of the relationship of dependence and inseparable connection. Communication with her newborn is so important for its development that depriving a contact for up to three months can lead to irreversible mental development disorders.

The attitude to the father as the person who gave life is formed by the mother. It is she who broadcasts how to treat him, what is his role in the life of the baby, what it is. In fact, a woman becomes an intermediary between the child and the father. Feelings of the baby to the parent largely depend on her efforts and desire to give a full-fledged education to the newborn.

The love of a child is a desire to imitate

By the beginning of the formation of consciousness (3 years), children are affirmed in the opinion that the best people on earth are Mom and Dad. They have real tenderness to their parents. It manifests itself in innumerable compliments, upholding the position in the yard that they are the most kind, beautiful, caring, and also in the desire to become the same. In two years the child grabs the brush, but does it for the sake of interest in an unusual object. Already at three, the girl tries to sweep to be like her mother. She puts on her dress, turns around in front of the mirror, repeats her habits.

The boy seeks to resemble his father, aware of his sex. Admiring him, he duplicates manners, behavior, even appearance. Demanding the same haircut, comparing the color of the hair, jealously listening to the conversations of adults about how much the son looks like his father. He represents the future profession approved by the parent. With pleasure he takes over skills, observes his attitude towards other people, women, mother.

Romantic affection

At the same age, the boy begins to experience the romantic adoration of the mother, and the girl - the father. The children's love for their parents resembles that of adults. If before they were dependent on them, now Mom and Dad have become a model of femininity and masculinity. The kid does not represent another woman next to her. After all, his mother is the most beautiful and kind. His main woman of four years old is even able to make an offer of a hand and a heart. Badly imagining the purpose of marriage, he can be jealous of his father, who takes his mother's attention from him. Such an erotic attitude by psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud is described as the Oedipus complex.

At an unconscious level in later life, the boy will choose a woman that resembles his own mother. A girl is a father, to whom he begins to experience proprietary feelings. The desire to take care of him is so strong that she is able to advise her mother to leave somewhere for a while, in order to be able to surround him with attention. A similar relation is described as the Electra complex. The romantic love of children for parents goes with the years, preparing for the formation of new feelings for future wives and husbands.

Split-split

The kid always sees the mother and father as an inseparable whole. The child's love for parents is the same, regardless of what behavior is actually demonstrated to them. Conflicting with each other, the couple often try to prove that the attachment of the baby to them is stronger, putting the son or daughter in a difficult position of choice, which they often can not do. If they were not exposed to obvious violence by one of the parents, experiencing fear and rejection, then the preference requirement forms a sense of guilt either to the father or to the mother.

This proves that the child's love is more perfect than the child's. At an early stage, he does not need any benefits and advantages. He does not assess the time spent by a parent - it does not matter who played with him anymore, and who is less. Mother and father he perceives as a part of himself, therefore fulfills the mission of their reconciliation at any cost, at times quite real sick.

Love in spite of

Children's attachment to parents is strong at a subconscious level. And because the mother and father gave life. This feeling is unselfish. It is freed from desires, and therefore the purest and the present. But a good picture of the world for children exists only until the time when harmony exists in their relations with parents. Its destruction is the neglect of parents' responsibilities on the part of adults. But even such a shock (beatings, alcoholism, self-elimination from the upbringing of children) can not kill the child's love.

There are many examples where children run from children's homes to careless parents to take care of them, convince them to be treated, to earn for their needs. They believe until the last in their drunken tears, without condemning, whatever they do. This is correct under God's laws, which reads: "Honor the father and mother of your own." Condemnation of parents is a sin, correlated with renunciation of God.

Parent Boomerang

As children grow older, the children's unconditional trust in the adult world is lost. Faced with lies, injustice, misunderstanding from parents, the child begins to doubt the sincerity of feelings towards himself. He seeks confirmation of the manifestation of love in the actions of adults. While they get used to more orientate themselves on words. The child's love for parents in adolescence is a reflection of the feelings that he receives from them. In psychology, this is called the boomerang effect.

School conflict, in which the parents supported the teacher, without understanding the situation to the end, rejection of friends, interests, the opinion of the child - everything can cause uncertainty in their love. The teenager starts provoking situations to obtain confirmation of the need for his own father and mother: from imitating the disease to escaping from the house.

Older parents

Some in old age are surrounded by attention and care, becoming the center of a large multi-family family. Others in life are abandoned and forgotten, forced to spend time alone. Different attitude of children to elderly parents lies in the plane of education. The child's love for Mom and Dad, the light and pure feeling given from birth, is lost with the years for many reasons, the main of which are:

• The absence of a positive example of the attitude to the older generation on the part of the parents themselves;
• Boomerang effect;
• Giperopeka throughout life.

Whatever happens, communication with elderly parents is necessary not only as a token of gratitude for a given life, but also for example to their own children, in respect of whom everyone will need old age.