Changed his wife. What to do? Hard decisions

Even the authors of the manuals on "bitchiness" do not recommend their readers to change their husbands. Modern women's society began to understand that male jealousy is not a spice to the dish of love, but a very heavy and painful feeling. A man often goes into himself if his wife has changed. What to do and how to make the right decision?

Live with this woman next? The correct solution is possible if you correctly establish the causes of treason and think about whether you can solve the deep problems of your relationship. Usually the reasons are quite certain and they can be guessed indirectly. However, in any case, she must say that the relationship can not continue as if nothing had happened. Regardless of whether you forgive her or not, she should know that it will not work out easily in this situation.

The most common reason is the lack of admiring male attention that many women need. It is often combined with a certain amount of emotional hunger for your wife. She wants bright impressions and relationships, but simply caring for you about her becomes something banal for her. So, because of lack of attention , my wife changed. What if you still tend to forgive her and she is not eager to leave? First, more interested in her appearance, buy her a subscription to fitness, in the pool, plan a gym together. Demonstrate to her demanding interest. Do not encourage her "bad" behavior by issuing money to buy new clothes. Secondly, you just need to spend more time with her when she cooks, do not go to watch TV, but sit and talk with her. After all, your family is more expensive than a TV set.

Less common is betrayal as a result of the fact that a woman prefers a socially or financially successful man. In this case, to cool your wife's hot head is capable of thinking that her "cool man" is not so interested in her to make a marriage. So, for the sake of vague prospects , the wife changed. What to do? Stop a woman in a situation where she, as they say, "in the eyes of dollar signs," is very difficult. It is better to wait until she returns herself, and this happens quite often. The exception is the case when a woman has exceptional merits, like a very effective appearance or objectively higher than you, IQ and intellectual attractiveness. But it happens rarely, usually "cool" will be played - and thrown. And you can comfort and take back, if you really need it.

There is treason, as revenge for your betrayal. Of course, this is also offensive. After all, men are privately allowed more. But in this case, the woman does not try to break the relationship, she just tries to show that she, too, may be interesting, this is not the most intelligent female infidelity. What to do? In this situation, you need to ask her for forgiveness for your sins and offer to start all over again, having forgiven the old grievances.

She could also fall in love. Fall in love usually with peers or seniors, as a rule, these are married men. And the prospects for a life with him with your wife are very vague. The wife fell in love and changed. What to do? Also, letting go of her, a sense of duty and guilt for a long time you can not keep. When he returns - forgive and accept, if you still love her.

The most rare case is problems in sexual life. She does not like the frequency, size or tenderness. The frequency can be increased by drugs, there are nozzles for correcting the dimensions, with a lack of tenderness you can experiment and read the literature. So usually this problem occurs in parallel with one of the above. And this is only an excuse for treason (except for the situation when the wife is a nymphomaniac). So we need to look for the true problem.

"What if you have been changed?". In each case, the decision to take only you. Can you forgive and start building it all over again? If so, then try. After all, the family is the closest people, and both parents need the children.