Body language: these techniques may not be easy to master, but efforts will pay off

As the sea witch Ursula once said (the same one from the Little Mermaid): "Do not underestimate the importance of body language." And she was absolutely right.

Some tricks, for example, a memorable smile, mastered and applied every day easily. Others can cause difficulties in mastering and require some skill. Nevertheless, they can have a huge, and sometimes even decisive, meaning.

Here are eight body language techniques that are not easy to master, but your efforts will pay off.

"Mirroring" the interlocutor

"Mirror" of the one with whom you are talking - means repeating what he does. Movement, position of the body. This is quite difficult, primarily because if you overdo it with the "mirroring", the interlocutor may think that they mock him or tease him.

On the other hand, a correctly executed trick helps you to easily locate yourself.

A confident gait

Despite the fact that everyone thinks that he walks confidently, this is not always the case. Some have a sluggish gait and slouch, others look awkward and closed.

And it's pretty hard to follow: it's like a voice that you hear really only on the record and every time you wonder if it's you. But if you try to correct this problem, others will judge you as a confident and purposeful person.

Eye contact: everything in your eyes

There are people who are hard to maintain eye contact, and even more so to start looking straight in the eyes. For them, this is unnatural and awkward. But in fact it is very helpful in communicating and has more than a "running" look or eternally lowered eyes.

Leil Lownes in the book "How to talk to anyone about anything" advises you to imagine that your eyes are glued to the interlocutor with something sticky. Over time, you will get used to it and stop noticing it and controlling it, and your communication skills will improve.

Open Positions

Not knowing where to put your hands, people thrust them into their pockets or crossed on their breasts, thus fencing themselves off from the interlocutor. But this subconsciously makes you think that you are hiding something. Open poses have more to their liking and create a trusting atmosphere.

Calm, just calm

Fussy movements are usually peculiar to people dishonest or those who are afraid. Neither of them absolutely dislikes their interlocutors.

However, in attempts to calm down and keep it is easy to overdo it and do not move at all. But such positions do not look relaxed and nothing better than "jerking."

Finding a balance is the best way out in this situation.

Posture

Parents were absolutely right, scolding you for your stooped back. Relaxation is relaxed, but "falling apart" in a chair, for example, in an interview is a sign of disrespect. At the same time, even posture is regarded as a sign of intelligence, confidence and trust. This also works not only in formal meetings.

Sitting exactly with unaccustomed things is not easy, but it's worth the effort.

Handshake

A "sluggish handshake" is the worst handshake, the most repulsive and unpleasant of all that exists. It makes people see only weakness. Shake hands with confidence, open eyes and a broad smile. Then it works.

By the way, in this case, too, you need to know the measure, since too strong handshake will be regarded as aggression.

Slowdown

When a person is nervous, he starts moving quickly and talking quickly. But accurate and slow actions produce a much better impression. A person who speaks at a measured pace knows what he is talking about - such thoughts are traced in our minds.

If you feel that you are starting to "fragment", stop, take a deep breath and continue as calmly as possible. So you will look like a competent specialist, not yesterday's green schoolboy.