Why a man lies: feel like Dr. Lightman

As the hero of one of the most popular serials of the last decade liked to say, the eccentric doctor Gregory House - "All lies". Is it so? Statistics show that even the most sincere and open people periodically tell others untruth. Why does a person lie and what pushes him to do this?

Why?

There are several main reasons that push a person to imagine a real situation in completely different colors or completely hide some facts. The most common person is lying when:

• Is afraid to offend or cause pain to the person for whom this or that information is intended;
• Fears that he will be criticized or convicted, does not want to be punished for some misconduct (just like in childhood, yes :));
• Seeks to show itself better than it really is.

The rarer, but also the possible reason why a person lies, can be a rich fantasy and an inability to distinguish fiction from reality.

How to determine?

About the recognition of lies by non-verbal signals (facial expressions, gestures, etc.) has been said and written already very much. However, the theme of how to understand that a person is cunning, is much less often affected, according to his speech. And meanwhile, even if you lose sight of any nonverbal sign, then, as a person says, you can analyze in any case.

1. Ask questions. As a rule, people who lie are more focused on what they say, and not on how. Therefore, it is likely that a person, without even noticing, will answer your question with words that were uttered by you a couple of seconds ago. For example, if you ask "Did you break the computer?" And you will hear something like "No, it was not me who broke the computer" - this is one of the first signs that you are a liar.

2. Often the detection of lies is made according to the tempo and intonations of speech. A person forced on the move to come up with an explanation, will speak a little slower than usual. If he had time to think up an "alibi" for himself, then, most likely, the speech will be a little quicker (I still have to say everything until I forget!). When a person is lying, he can often add to his story a lot of small and irrelevant details.

3. Prolonged pauses in speech and grammatically incorrect sentences, frequent repetitions are another sign of lies.

4. If you changed the subject of the conversation, and the interlocutor actively supported you in this, you relaxed considerably, which means that the previous topic was unpleasant for him. It is likely that you have not heard from him a single truthful word.

5. Try to ask the interlocutor to state the events in reverse order. If a person speaks the truth, he will easily do it. But the liar will start to get lost and panic.

Instead of an afterword

We found out the main reasons why a person lies, as well as several ways to check the sincerity of their interlocutor. A large amount of information about lies in all its manifestations, etc. You can get online - try to search for materials on an interesting topic such as polygraph of lies.

However, in order that you never have to find out why a person is lying, and think about how to deal with this - try to always be extremely honest with others. "As it does, it will respond" - do not forget this simple truth!