The ideal family - what should it be?

An ideal family ... What is she, who can say? What is included in this concept and at what point is the usual post-wedding or civic cohabitation possible to be called a family, and not just what, but ideal? Some people have to write an essay on the topic: "How do you imagine an ideal family". What comes out as a result? And it turns out that every text written by different people contains absolutely different formulas for a happy family life. That's it.

Here it is worth noting that for each person the model of an ideal family is different, there is not something definite and concrete. That one will seem to be a better life together, the other will not like it at all. However, there are some certain standards, which are given below. For convenience, they are divided into groups for different family members. Once again we recall that the image of an ideal family is different for each person, only generally accepted norms are given below. So, let's go.

Female look

What should be an ideal family in the opinion of the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity: 10 components.

1. Healthy and obedient children. The number and sex depend on individual wishes, but in one way or another, in 85% of cases, women consider children to be the main constituent of an ideal family.
2. Lush and memorable wedding, which you can brag to your girlfriends.
3. Signs of attention and courtship from men even after the wedding.
4. Unemployed life (for careerists - on the contrary: the lack of regular phrases / requests / demands that it's time to do family and home instead of work).
5. Attention, which the husband continues to give and after the wedding.
6. Going to the movies, theaters, restaurants, etc.
7. Financial stability throughout life.
8. Mutual understanding, lack of quarrels and all the more fights.
9. Adequate mother-in-law, not trying to constantly teach the daughter-in-law to the mind.
10. Absence of "household" gifts like pans, pans, dishwashers, etc. from the side of the husband.

Male look

What should be an ideal family, according to representatives of the strong half of humanity: 10 components.

1. Delicious and daily breakfasts, lunches, dinners.
2. Regular sex, the absence of "headaches" from his wife.
3. A cozy, tidy dwelling and, as a consequence, an economic spouse, not shy away from homework.
4. Loyal attitude of the wife to friends; Adequate response to friendly gatherings.
5. Loyal her attitude to the hobby and hobbies of the spouse (releasing without quarrel on fishing, hunting or in the sauna, the absence of scandals after the purchase of useful gizmos like a fishing rod, car radio or an encyclopedia of a naturalist).
6. Love for one kind of sport and / or genre of films / music (or at least the absence of controversy due to the mismatch of tastes).
7. The absence of daily hysteria and scandals from scratch.
8. A beautiful wife who does not shower herself after the wedding.
9. A good mother-in-law who does not interfere in the spouses' private life.
10. The absence of "household" gifts like a hammer, drill, razor, etc. from the wife.

Children's view

Ideal family through the eyes of children: 10 constituents.

1. Absence of quarrels and fights between parents. Painfully the children do not like to see how the people close to them curse.
2. The absence of a negativity directed at children, whether it be an increased voice or paternal strap.
3. Absence in the family of alcohol and a drinking parent.
4. Regular purchase of toys, sweets and other children's delights.
5. Permission to sleep with light or with parents (this item is present at the majority, but not at all).
6. Periodic (as often as possible) trips to the movies, zoos, amusement parks, to attractions and so on.
7. Joint games with parents.
8. A large portion of daily attention. Ideally, parents should not work at all.
9. The presence in the family of a domestic pet, preferably fluffy, to play with it. Ideally - several animals.
10. The goldfish living in the aquarium, fulfilling all desires, the magic lamp of Aladdin, inside of which is the real Genie, the entrance to Narnia in the closet and the flying owl with the invitation to Hogwarts.

Animal look

Some people consider their pets to be full members of the family. Dogs and cats, among other things, also have their own view of the ideal family model, so their opinion should also be taken into account. So, if pets could speak, they would most likely have expressed the following wishes.

1. Ideal feeding: the more often, the better. The hosts must forget about the cheap dry food and start cooking for their pets (fish, meat, sausages, etc.). The cooking is to bring the pieces into a chopped kind.
2. Sleep anywhere. The ban on jumping on the bed, tables and clothes promises disagreements.
3. Weasel at any time.
4. March delivery of cute females / males at first request.
5. Permission to use the toilet in public places such as a sofa, corners and shoes.
6. Breeding mice (personal desire of representatives of the cat family).
7. Walking for dogs, no washing for cats.
8. Daily games in the "hunt" - behind the laser, paper, fake mouse and so on.
9. Prohibition of touching and seeing other people's pets.
10. Communication in one language (of course, on an animal).

Why?

• Why is there no happiness and peace in the house?
• Why people can not achieve mutual understanding?
• Why does a life sometimes turn into a real hell?
• Why is there anything that seems to be needed for happiness, but the family is still not ideal?
• Why can not a family be transformed from an ordinary one into an ideal one in a day or two?
• Why did a man appear to be one before the wedding, and then become different?
• Why do you think about divorce from time to time?
• Why is this happening?

Unfortunately, there are no answers to these questions, but they all relate to the topic under discussion, and the main one is not the only true, just the main one - the cause of all ills is misunderstanding and the absence of some connection between close people. Without these components of the present, sincere family happiness can not be achieved.

How to create an ideal family

The answer is obvious: take into account all the wishes of each side. Of course, it is clear that not all the items described above can be performed, some are almost unrealistic, but you can find or try to find a compromise.

Another, simpler and more effective option is to: collect all family members and talk openly; To ask what for each concrete person means the very concept of an "ideal family", after which to decide how it can be created. To make it, everyone should want this. Secretly and independently it will not be possible to create an ideal family, you just spoil all your nerves and you will end up as a result of a broken trough.

The result

An ideal family is an abstract concept, meaning peace and happiness in relations between spouses and harmony in their lives. For some, the family is considered ideal if there is a small but cozy apartment on the periphery and two charming kids, and someone will not be able to live well even in a huge chic cottage on the beach. To each his own.

So, decide what the ideal family means for you, write everything down for better perception, understand what you lack for happiness, and create your perfect joint with your husband / wife world.