Parents Who You Raise In Your Child: Genius Or Parasite?

Recently, there has been a trend towards a reduction in able employees and an increase in active parasites. But, perhaps, few people realize that it is parents who directly influence both the aggravation and the solution of this problem.

First I want to give you one very illustrative example from life. Recently I went to the subway. I'm sitting. I see a young, healthy and decently dressed woman walking by the car. In one hand she has a plastic sheet A4 packed with a baby photo and, like, like, a diagnosis. In the other - a black bag, on the shoulder a neat leather handbag for money.

And here it is slightly plaintive and somewhere even with lazy asks the passengers of the car to help her financially. In general, the standard for the Moscow metro is a professional beggar. I immediately remembered at least five in all similar characters, two of whom I saw decently dining in a cafe. Therefore, even a thought arose: someone can already created courses on the training of professional begging in the subway.

And what is most interesting, these women are given money on the subway. From one point of view, this is a good indicator - people want to help. Despite the crises and propaganda for all the media of ubiquitous deception, our people want to help and help. Truly wide Russian soul.

But someone can ask what this has to do with the topic of the article. It's simple. To do this, let's look at the other side of the medal of this aid. The person who gives money to this woman - helps, or thinks that helps. A person who asks and receives money actually gets confirmation that he can continue to receive money without earning them.

Those. Here is the following: a person does not produce and does not provide anything valuable for your survival, from you he gets money for it. And it's good if these funds really go to treat someone's child. So, at least, your desire to help will be realized. In any case, the main problem is not solved. The man realized that he could do nothing and get paid for it.

Also, when you give money to such a person, other people see it. As you know, a bad example is contagious, and someone can start using it. And if you take a close look at your environment, you will see that social "begging" is quite developed and assumes a variety of forms.

A non-obvious example is youth, which parents provide for a long time. They are bought phones and pay for studies, they are bothered for them, arranging for good work, etc. In itself all this is necessary help for your child. But there is one point: most parents do not give the child (no matter what his age) to do something in exchange for the help and support he constantly receives from his parents.

All this is nothing more than the encouragement of non-production. By production is meant a process whereby a person provides (produces, sells) something valuable to other people. It can be something objective (such as a TV or a car), or maybe just a necessary service. But this should be valuable, because, as a rule, a person exchanges it for the things necessary for his survival. It can be money, and maybe support for someone at the right time.

So, the main mistake of many parents is the maintenance of the idea that the child is small, weak and does not know how to be able to provide something of value to them. Honestly, it's not. You can check it out. And I assure you, a pleasant surprise awaits you. Children are very capable. Especially if you give them this exercise. And than at an earlier age, the better.

For example, the well-known composer Mozart wrote his first concert in 4 years! And at 6 years old he and his family traveled all over Europe and spoke before the royal people. By the way, a very interesting point: despite the popularity of their children (Wolfgang also had a talented sister), their parents remembered that children are first and foremost children who must have childhood and, of course, children's fun and pranks. Therefore, the famous and serious musician Wolfgang often interrupted his studies to play with the cat or prohalopirovat on the rooms on his father's cane.

And Thomas Edison already at the age of 10 was fond of chemical experiments and created his first laboratory in the basement of the house. Needing money for experiments, Edison at the age of 12 became a seller of newspapers and sweets on the train. In order not to waste time, he transferred the chemical laboratory to the luggage car at his disposal and conducted experiments on the train. At the age of 15 I bought a printing press on occasion and in the baggage car I published my newspaper, which I sold to passengers. Edison's genius and extraordinary diligence can be considered the merit of his mother, a former school teacher, who continued his upbringing and education at home after being kicked out of school.

A well-known philosopher and humanist of the twentieth century, L. Ron Hubbard, who himself began teaching at age 17 and in his further studies of human nature examined in great detail the issues of education and upbringing, in his guide to improving life, "The Road to Happiness" recommended the following:

"Watch the children (even the smallest ones). Listen to what the children tell you about their lives. Let them help you. If you do not do this, they will have to suppress the overwhelming sense of duty.

A child can not do without love. Most children are willing to generously give their love in return. "

It is important to understand that any normal child who has already learned to walk and speak well can and most importantly wants to be useful. Try to give him simple tasks and show how to properly perform them. It can be cleaning in the house, taking out the garbage, washing the car or even painting the fence in the country. The main thing is show how to do it right, and even better do it together, showing and telling what and why you are doing. As a result, your child will be able to do it himself.

Also, at times, children want to make a contribution to the family with their creativity, but are not sure that it will be valuable to you. For example, if a child likes to dance or draw. You will make him happy if you ask him to show you his new dance. Or tell him that you do not have enough drawings on the walls to decorate the room, and his work would be very welcome. So you get not only a happy and capable child, but also a good friend. And more importantly, you will form important qualities for an adult person: diligence, desire and ability to contribute to a group that supports it.