Self-pity: why and how to deal with this need to fight

Almost every one of us at least once in his life felt a feeling of self-pity for himself and his fate. There are always grounds for this. Every time the hands just drop from a hopeless situation, every time you give up, you want to feel sorry for yourself. However, for all seeming harmlessness, this feeling is one of man's most important enemies.

Self-pity and depression

Professional psychologists believe that such an emotional state can turn into a real addiction. On the one hand, this feeling a little helps to cope with stress, but on the other - with its help, problems can not be solved, and the cause that caused stress is only driven deep inside. If this happens often enough, all the conditions for the appearance of distress (bad, harmful stress) arise, which itself can be removed very easily, so you have to contact experts for psychological help.

Self-pity is somewhat like a drug. Once feeling a certain relief (and sometimes even some "sweetness") from this feeling, a person may later be tempted to react in this way to any, even the smallest, troubles. As a result, a dependence is formed that drives a person into a real impasse: self-pity leads to depression, and this state and unsolved problems further strengthen bad emotions. The circle is closed. In addition to this, when depression is very low immunity, which means, hello orz, cold and other sickness!

Feelings of pity and the role of the victim

A person in his life can occupy one of two positions: the role of the winner or the role of the victim. In the first case, he fully assumes responsibility for all events in his life, and in the second - in all accuses others, fate and circumstances. Self-pity is part of the role of the victim. Penetrating deep into the subconscious, this feeling acts like a magnet, literally attracting all sorts of troubles. How then can you be happy? Yes, in any way! Thought is material, and therefore you must resolutely fight negative emotions and monitor the purity of your consciousness.

How to overcome the feeling of pity

Try to first determine as precisely as possible what causes such negative emotions. Often, the desire to regret self conceals anger and pain. They, in turn, flow from resentment and irritation to apparent injustice.
Often we forget that all people are different, everyone perceives the same situation in their own way. That for one will be a great injustice, for another it will be a mere trifle. If you are scared of resentment, then remember that there is a reason for everything, and in the end everything is going well. Try to think about it at your leisure. Meditation and affirmations are very helpful. You can also recall the positive moments of your life, all the successes and achievements. Each of us has everything to achieve our goals, otherwise we would not become what we are now. And we deserve much more than just trying on the role of "victim" and waiting for someone to regret us. Life is amazing and beautiful, and a victory over its weaknesses will be an excellent occasion to feel like a real master of your destiny.