Rite of Matchmaking for All Rules.

Not all modern grooms are familiar with the ritual of matchmaking, the more so do not know how it is conducted. Many of them consider this ritual old fashioned and do not see the need for it. In their opinion, it is quite enough mutual consent of young people and apply for the registration of marriage to the relevant authorities. Now many families practice a slightly modified type of matchmaking, and in particular, the parents of the bride are hosted by the groom's parents, where the acquaintance is taking place, and, in fact, An offer of marriage. Traditions of the wedding ceremony are slowly forgotten. But, our grandmothers, who married several decades ago, still remember how this ceremony was held. The ceremony of matchmaking, was accompanied by songs and dances. Smart and cheerful matchmakers, danced, sang and enticed people. There were songs in which the groom was touted, his strength, mind and beauty were glorified. Exclusively in the power of the parents of the future bride was the fate of lovers. In case of refusal to the groom, a pumpkin appeared on the doorstep of the house. When the young man had a desire to get married, the family council, which included the father and mother, as well as the godparents , was going to . The son reported his lover and asked for their consent. If the chosen one of the son liked the parents, then the godparents went to marry the girl. Directly the matchmaking ceremony was very original. The matchmakers started conversations from afar, delicately told about the material condition of the groom and about his feelings. If during the conversation it was clear that the mood of the girl's parents was benevolent, then the groom offered his hand and heart, and the matchmakers discussed the wedding day and the return to the groom's parents. An important point was the bride's bridesmaids. The girl, like her parents, was very worried. The bride was shown at the bride showrooms, praised her skill, skills, beauty and carefully concealed her shortcomings. The dowry was exhibited as well as the result of the works of the young master. Remaining satisfied with what they saw, the groom's parents raised the question of the upcoming wedding. Between the parents of the groom and the bride, as a rule, friendly relations developed. In Russia, matchmakers engaged in matchmaking, not having a direct relationship with the groom. Often the bride and groom lived far apart, in different settlements, to reach which it was not easy. The path was difficult and exhausting. In this case, the bride was not going to marry the matchmaker, namely the parents of the future bridegroom, in order to make a decision about the wedding without mediators. It is sad that today the order of holding matchmaking has lost its significance. Most young people prefer to live together under one roof, without tying themselves by marriage. They explain this by wanting to get to know each other better, and to understand what a loved one is in everyday life. But it is often life is the cause of the severance of relations. There is even a saying: "The family boat broke about life." Unfortunately, not everyone can stand next to a loved one all the time. There are both positive and negative qualities of the beloved. Quite often, a young man who decided to marry does not hurry to the parents of his lover, asking her hands and heart. The offer is usually made directly to the bride, who at the same time receives a ring as a gift. And parents on both sides, just put before the fact.