Quarrels with her husband. A sad need or reason to sound an alarm

The theme of family scandals does not lose its relevance throughout the entire period of human existence. In an effort to establish relationships, as a rule, women turn to psychologists and specialists in the field of family and marriage for help. As a result of evaluation and systematization of a huge number of facts, several main reasons for quarrels with her husband were revealed. In the list of reasons that cause family upheaval, there are also disruptions in the distribution of roles, mistakes in the relations of partners to each other, differences in views on "life", and crises in sexual relations, up to disappointment in one's partner. A lot of pepper in the family life brings attempts to "intrusive help" from the parents, addictions and illnesses, subconscious competition for power, the problems of the communicative plan. The list of reasons for the ongoing quarrels with her husband could be continued indefinitely. But all of them can be grouped into seven main groups.

The first group unites the quarrels caused by temporary influences on people's attitudes. Those who show increased love at the very beginning, that in the midst of family life become the initiator of claims. The participant of the family tandem begins to pour reproaches and discontent, if he does not manage to achieve harmony, subconsciously he predicts a sad ending and himself unwillingly, starts acting according to the formed model.

To save the situation in this case it is possible, if radically to revise the style of behavior in relation to each other. Stop quibbles and mutual reproaches. It should immediately be removed from the relationship of accusation and forget the mistakes of the past. In the family "war" there are no winners. When one drowns another, he himself is in a critical situation. It's time to look for attractive qualities in a partner and just not to notice what's causing it to be irritating.

The second group consists of quarrels with her husband, caused by the struggle for leadership in the pair. In the period of falling in love this struggle manifests itself imperceptibly, each "main" in a certain area of relations, in its own unique, unique and attractive. But in the future there comes a phase of critical assessments, that's when the stock of claims boils up. Often during this period, one begins to openly express his opinion as the main thing, the second manifesting in this case "near-wisdom" begins to give way until the relationship reaches a critical point.

Once the relationship begins to move into the category of competition, it is worthwhile to sound the alarm.

In the third group of reasons, which are constantly with her husband quarrels, problems are identified on the basis of the Family Budget. Variants of claims on this field can not be counted. It is recommended to divide the joint income into three directions in order to avoid the majority of them. In the first take into account the general needs, the second divided by the pockets of all family members to solve small personal problems from traveling by tram to recharge the phone, and the third part to have as a joint savings. The share of each direction depends on the income of the family and the general agreement of all members.

The fourth group of scandals is the basis of the causes that lead to divorce. If quarrels with the husband arise because of non-observance of moral principles, family ethics and violation of matrimonial fidelity, the path to divorce passes to the finish line. It is difficult to restore relations even to the level of universal human understanding, when hatred, irritation and discontent are raging all the time. If not divorce, mutual isolation in this case is recommended.

In the fifth group it was decided to collect scandals for reasons very similar to those described in the second category, but arising from social inequality. The financial director and the janitor begin to misunderstand each other in the family. Quarrels with her husband begin to resemble an industrial squabble.

Part of the family disagreements caused by supposedly mutual misunderstanding, and in fact, vain hopes are the sixth group. Quarrels with her husband are due to a bit of a fantasy, but often leading to real scandals with severe consequences. One side (often female) expects from the other side some special manifestations of love, unusual signs of attention or a special style of behavior. This relies only on the "telepathic" abilities of his lover. The more serious this approach, the more the bitterness of disappointment. And hint or say directly did not try?

The seventh group of conflicts is uniting all the previous ones. The conflict is not resolved, but the compromised one of the parties will sooner or later develop either in the same form or find a new form, but the cause of the scandal will remain, and even worse with new reproaches.

Building a family together is easy, difficult and impossible to solve family problems alone.