Why is the child afraid? How to overcome the child's fear of fears

In order to find out how to overcome the fear of fear, I would like to talk a little about the causes of the emergence and development of children's fears. The presence of this problem in the family suggests that this is not just the vagaries and hysterics of the child, but rather a serious cause for concern. Often the child develops a fear of the so-called suggestions of something terrible mom or dad, for example, frighten that he will be taken away by a "babai", a devil or a policeman if he behaves badly, or constantly threatens to cut his tongue or fingers for Bad words or ridiculous wags, or Mom will get sick and will cry if the baby does not obey. Such examples can be cited for a long time and endlessly. Of course, everything said by the parents is said in jest, to only parrot the baby. That only parents do not invent, that their child was sweet, obedient and fulfilled all their wishes, only forget about one thing that the child perceives everything said by adults as truth.

Fear of fear can arise at the age of six months, when the child is sensitive to the care of the mother, because next to her he feels fully protected, comfortable and cozy, and his eyes and tender hands speak of complete well-being. But when my mother is not around, the absence of a close and dear person becomes a traumatic factor for the child. This manifestation can form a child's fear of loneliness. Of course, this feeling will eventually become dull if the parents pay attention to the child's words, for example, that they do not leave him somewhere at the age of two in the apartment or in the room before going to bed. Also fear of fears can arise in front of strangers and strangers, just starting from the age of eight months, the baby clings tightly to the mother, tries to turn away from people, cries, and fits. At an unconscious level, he is afraid that these people hurt him and something bad and only after the person who first comes to visit will show him love and warm feelings, this fear will begin to dull. In the opposite case, fear can develop and lead to the appearance of a phobia, if this does not reveal and work with the child in time.

It should be noted that at the age of three years, when the child is actively introduced to the outside world, read stories, show cartoons and various pictures, there may be another fear of fears in the image that a child at an unconscious level is afraid of dying or falling ill, Instinct of self-preservation. He can be afraid of fairy-tale characters, big dogs or other animals, ride on the hills, approach the water, there are also night fears in children, they sleep badly, fear punishment and much more. But very often at the age of five and six years, children are afraid of death, which is largely due to the features of the intellectual development of the child.

Of course, fears and nightmares are almost all children and in order that they do not outgrow in phobia, you need to quickly deal with them, for this you should constantly communicate with the child, be a real friend to him, who understands everything and who can always trust. A big error of parents, which contributes to the emergence of a restless state of the baby, is that they very often find out their personal problems and conflicts before the child. Therefore, if family conflicts are unavoidable, investigate them without the presence of children. If the fear remains, parents need to urgently turn to a specialist. Correction of fears in children is carried out by a child psychologist with the help of drawings, role games, individual consultations with which you can find out the true cause of fear, in order to neutralize the sources and overpower the belief that this fear does not do any harm to his life.