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Naughty children is the norm?
There are no naughty children, just as there are no children perfectly obedient. Any child behaves differently in different "proposed circumstances". And this is normal. Time, place, people with whom the child interacts, and many other diverse factors can turn any angel into a wretch, and vice versa.
From the point of view of psychology, the problems of raising children are exacerbated in certain life stages. Naughty children can justifiably act ugly just a few times in their lives. These are the so-called crises of 3, 7 and 13 years.
At 3 years old, the individuality of the child begins to manifest itself rapidly. In this period it is very important to understand that the behavior of the baby is now conditioned not so much by his personal qualities, as by natural human characteristics. During the crisis of three years the child's position is "I myself", in the world sounding like "I do not want, I will not, no."
It is possible to significantly simplify each other's lives by adopting the rules of the child's play. That is, it is better to agree that he is an adult and has the right to solve some innocuous problems himself, for example, what color to wear socks. At the same time, in some basic questions an adult must be firm and not allow the child to manipulate himself.
At 7 years the next difficult period comes. The child goes to school, falls into a new environment for him, begins to actively communicate with peers. In his life there is a new authority - the first teacher. It is necessary to prepare for the fact that "Maryvivna" will become for your child the most intelligent person on the planet, her word is the law, and you can argue with your parents. Naughty first-graders now live according to completely different laws: if they are praised in the classroom, their significance will grow, and if the mother kisses her treasure at all, they can laugh. And again, parents have to accept the rules of the game - in the school it is necessary to "keep the mark", and at home it is necessary to give him his caress and warmth, in which the child still needs very much.
Naughty children, at whatever age they are, are just children. They all also need love, care and protection. If at some point in life parents can not manage themselves, it is better not to bring the matter to serious conflicts, but to turn to a specialist. A psychologist for a child can become, if not an adviser, a "hint", help to understand himself and eventually contribute to improving the atmosphere in the house.
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