Who chooses whom: a man a woman or a woman a man? How does a man choose his woman?

Today, women have become more active and free than they were a few decades ago. Suffrage, feminism, gender equality - all this has pushed society to some changes in the upbringing and consciousness of modern youth. Therefore, it can be considered logical that the question arose: "At the moment, who chooses whom: a man is a woman or vice versa?" Let's try to understand this problem.

A little history

It's no secret that almost the whole world has lived in patriarchal traditions for a long time. And this happened long before the beginning of the current chronology, and this is very, very long time ago. Some genetic information of a person is transmitted from generation to generation with the knowledge that in everything and always the main are men: they rule the world, act as heads of families, solve problems that can be called global. The woman always went to the man for advice, solved only with him all the important questions, was guided by his opinion and thoughts. Often did only what a man would say. The slightest attempts by the representatives of the fair sex to change this state of things were in every possible way suppressed and punished.

Modern realities

Quite recently, in the middle of the last century, a new women's movement arose. Suffragettes decided to give a little more freedom to women. Over time, it developed into a more aggressive and radically tuned current - feminism - fighting men for supremacy. However, this trend quickly lost its relevance (although the foci of feminism can be observed from time to time and now). At the moment, women have decided to act more wisely and begin to seek not yet the predominant positions in the struggle "man-woman", and to begin with at least equality. They called their offspring gender equality, that is, gender equality. However, not everything is done as quickly as we would like. Overthrow the social order (patriarchy), which existed for many centuries in a row, is quite difficult all over the world, it's even harder to change the opinion of the women themselves. But if in the countries of Europe and America gender issues are much easier and calmer (both on both sides), and more women occupy leading positions and even take seats in the parliament, the countries of the post-Soviet space are still quite far away. Here, such innovations are not very welcome, and society is so far closed to such changes (including from the female side).

Simple conclusions

A little glance in the history, it is already possible to draw logical conclusions, answering the question of who chooses whom. At this point in our country it is still the prerogative of men. Modern girls and women rarely come up first to meet a man, invite a guy they like to dance or a date. However, there is one but. If a man should take the first step on his own, a woman can help him in this by suggesting his behavior or ambiguous phrases-hints that are required of him. It turns out that the man actually chooses, but after all, he chooses most often what a woman wants. Ability or even a gift to inspire their thoughts and desires for men - probably, it was for this that women were burned at the stake in the Middle Ages.

Traditions of Education

Answering the question: "Who chooses whom?", It is also important to pay attention to the traditions of education of the majority of people living today. Most of the population of our country was born in the Soviet Union and brought up in the strict rules of that time. The best qualities of a girl of that time are shyness and diligence. Well, how could a lady think that she can choose her own man? Even in the song it is said that the girls stand and wait on the sidelines ... simultaneously thinking about who will remain alone. That is why the older generation is more likely to act in accordance with the norms of their upbringing. As for youth, the question is dual. On the one hand, this youth is brought up by mothers, who are still considered normal by Soviet morality norms, bringing them into the life of their child. However, another weapon enters the battle - the mass media, which dictates how it is better for modern girls to act to become successful and achieve much not only in their careers, but also in their personal lives. Various "Diaries of the Bitch" and other literature suggest to the modern representatives of the weaker sex that it is they who must choose whom to live and communicate, somewhat changing not only the model of the behavior of the beautiful half of humanity, but also their consciousness. And if you tell the truth, then not a few, but very specific!

What is the basis for men's choice: historical moments

And not having an unequivocal answer to the question: "Who chooses whom: a man or woman is a man?", It is necessary to try to compile a small list of criteria that guide both sexes when choosing a life partner. What is the main thing for the stronger sex? How does a man choose his woman?

Nature inherent in the minds of people is that men are conquerors and getters, women are the keepers of the family hearth and the successors of the family. It was always important for men to have a healthy offspring. It used to be that the more magnificent a woman's form, the better, because it means that she does not go hungry and can bear, give birth, raise and raise a healthy offspring without problems. At the moment, this criterion does not work anymore, because today a fat lady, as a rule, does not differ from excellent health, rather, on the contrary: obesity and accompanying sores gradually destroy the body.

The second advantage of women, by the standards of long ago, can be formulated as follows: says little, works hard. It can not be said that modern men would refuse this, but such ladies can hardly be found anywhere. But even if our contemporaries always work and often earn very good money, they do not intend to remain silent. And without a twinge of conscience express their dissatisfaction with men on various occasions. And also without any reason.

And a woman should be able to prepare well what the man will bring with hunting. Today, in principle, little has changed, and men are still, as before, like to eat deliciously. This can once again be reminded to everyone by a well-known saying, which says that the way to the heart of a man lies through the stomach. But only women do not always want to spend time at the stove ...

Men's Choice: Modernity

Today, several more selection criteria have been added. So, how does a man choose his woman? The first factor is appearance. And if earlier they did not pay much attention to this, today beauty and grooming are the guarantee that the coveted man will pay attention to the lady. Yes, guys love eyes, so a girl should always be attractive. Light make-up, tastefully selected attire, well-groomed body and seductive forms - all this is probably the first criterion today when choosing a life partner for men. It is also important for modern men that a woman be educated, well-read, have a specialty and could independently earn money, and not hang around their neck. As before, today, very often men choose women who look like their mothers. And the girls, respectively, are looking for guys that look like their fathers (or, alternatively, the exact opposite of their parents).

What do women do?

Earlier we found out that there is no one-sided answer to the question "who chooses - man or woman". But in most cases, after all, a man takes the first step towards creating a new pair. What does not prevent women from finding ways and options to arrange everything so that, in initiating the creation of a new relationship, leave the appearance of a man's choice. So, for example, huge help in this direction is provided by social networks. Girls can easily be the first to add friends to the guys, to enjoy their photos and write comments, thereby showing their interest. The choice of a woman is made, but it still remains to wait for the elected one to decide on the first steps. There are also often situations where a guy is surrounded by several women who are actively fighting for his attention and favor. So who and who chooses in this situation? It will take a long time to sort this out.

Criteria for choosing men

And what men do women choose? At all times ladies preferred excellent earners. Today, little has changed, and for a woman important is how much a man can provide a family. A guy should not be offended if the girl is interested in his material condition or place of work, position and salary, because in the first place it is important that her offspring could normally survive.

No less important criterion today (and earlier so it was) is the appearance of a man. But not so much bright beauty, as the presence of muscles, and therefore - the strength. Again, the ladies want to see an educated man next to him. Here, perhaps, that's all. Of course, there are still many different nuances, criteria for personal choice, which can be equally important for both girls and men.

General conclusions

What can be said about the current situation? Today, everything has become so confused and merged that it is simply impossible to give an unambiguous answer to the question of choice. A woman can notice a tendency: she chooses - she is chosen. But over time, the situation can change dramatically. The model of upbringing, and, accordingly, of women's behavior today is greatly changed. Often ladies try on themselves the role of men, and in this desire no one will condemn. Women become more powerful and free, men begin to relax, lose their masculinity and dominant positions. To say whether it is good or bad is difficult. This is the reality of modernity. Who chooses whom to choose? .. To answer this question, one article is not enough. At least because first you need to decide: and for what choose? Everyone judges according to their ideals. One thing is for sure: if a woman decides to win a man, she will do it openly or in secret, leaving the representative of the stronger sex an opportunity to consider himself the main initiator.