Communication with a girl: a guide for young people

It is believed that a strong sex behaves with weak women uninhibited and independent, that it's easy for guys to get a conversation with any girl and invite her on a date. However, life is much more complex and diverse than any stereotypes and statements. Therefore, not always a young man can muster the courage and give signs of attention to that young lady, who he liked.

Communicating with a girl is not a ritual, not a rite, to which they are attached at a certain age. Find a common language with people we learn all of life, and the relationship between the sexes - is no exception. Therefore, it is worthwhile first to discuss which options for dating and communication are doomed to failure in advance, and which ones will be very effective.

Do not!!!

Once the poet said that the service of the music of vanity does not tolerate. Just do not tolerate vanity of love or just interest in a person. And so the rules for communicating with the girls include advice: do not try to get acquainted in a hurry, on the run, in a hurry. After all, if a girl is in a hurry, she simply does not have time to look at you, listen to your speeches and appreciate them. Her pretty head can be occupied at this moment with any thoughts, but you clearly do not have a place. And in return for the expected interest in your person, you risk running into either coldness and detachment, or even to rudeness. Therefore, if the communication with the girl of your dreams really interests you - be patient and wait a moment when she will walk down the street, slowly, or even better - bored. Here it is, as they say, yours, just get interested!

Another "do not need" concerns obsession. Seeing that the girl is walking alone, pay attention to her gait, the expression on her face. It is possible that the lady is not in the spirit. And instead of the expected cute flirting, communication with a girl in such a state will cause the opposite effect. Approaching, ask if she does not need help. Try to express sympathy in a sympathetic tone, but do not overreact. By her reaction, you will understand, fell into the bull's eye, or should politely say goodbye and for some time dissolve in the crowd - until the next meeting.

Remember the proverb: "do they stretch their legs on the clothes?" Alas, it also applies to romantic dreams and their realization. It is possible that the girl, if she is pretty, clever and uncomplexed, and even from a wealthy family, already has a whole crowd of fans. It is presented with chic bouquets, rolled on steep "wheelbarrows", pampered with expensive cosmetics and tickets for closed screenings of movies. And let her not yet lift her nose and behave naturally - think, are you able to compete with her constant environment? After all, serious communication with the girl suggests that you will be introduced to the circle of her regular acquaintances. In that dish, will you feel when you have to go to the party on the subway, and when you collect money for a trip to the restaurant in a fold, you simply do not have the right amount? How is Zoshchenko in The Aristocrat? "Those without money - those with the ladies do not go ...". Sad, of course - but it's better, perhaps, not to take risks, not to hurt your self-esteem.

And one more important point. Before you go on an acquaintance and start a conversation, think of what to communicate with a girl. Improvisation is good when it is carefully prepared. Remember what books you read in recent months, what movies you watched, and what kind of hobbies you can tell her.

Demonstrate your courtesy and good breeding. Respectful "you" in this situation will become a strong bridge to the near good "you". And in any case, do not use foul language and "verbal trash" - all kinds of "kis", "baby", "baby", etc. Girls even in the 18th century, even in the 21st - still very much, Well, I really want romance and really beautiful relationships.

Before going out into the "light", put yourself in order. Greasy hair and a cigarette adhering to your lips, crumpled clothes and unclean shoes will alienate any girl from you, even if you are a seven- eyed peer in the forehead and can broadcast absolutely everything in the world 24 hours a day.

So how should it be?

You have to be yourself. Show the best that you have, and with the bad - to fight. And then good luck on the love front will be with you!